College Advice?

[Forlorn Drifter]

In 10-15 years I'll know I was right. The majority of people are shallow and pay attention to looks. I'm included. So that majority is off limits to me, and I can't date there. There's the group who isn't worried about looks- I probably won't find one I could like, because I'm worried about looks. That's why I don't try. Last night's episode of Man Seeking Woman describes the best I could hope for in my love life, if that.

[jp1]

Man, life has a lot in store for you.

[Xeogred]

In response to the original post, I wanted to add my own experience, which was that I went straight out of high school and into the University of Utah. It was the first time I felt that my intelligence was really valued by my peers. I loved it for the intellectual freedom it allowed. I could study whatever I wanted to study! I even gave up a Computer Science scholarship so that I could have more freedom and eventually changed my major to Psychology a few years later. Along the way, I took basic drawing, acting, anthropology, history, physics, business management, calculus, history of jazz, film, and many other courses. For the first few years, I didn't care about a major. I might have appeared to lack direction to some, but I only cared about one thing: becoming an educated person. My major just kind of came naturally along the way.

I like how JT put it here. Don't focus too much on the degree or which one... worry about that after you have one. Think about it. lol

Of course, I'm not there yet though.

[Jagosaurus]

I seriously had to check the thread title & make sure I was still on the college advice topic lol...

With that said, don't limit yourself. I'm an analytical guy & it's my first instinct to be reclusive & stick to the numbers & facts. But dammit... I made the decision to live with no regrets & never be the guy looking back saying "what if I would've [insert missed opportunity here]." With this mentality: got into the school I wanted, married someone way out my league (BC I had the courage to ask her out, worst she could've said was no), & even recently switched careers to something I enjoy. Make calculated, smart decisions but you have to leave your comfort zone at times.

Hate to break out the old saying but...

Life is 10% what happens to you & 90% how you react to it.

[KalessinDB]

In 10-15 years I'll know I was right. The majority of people are shallow and pay attention to looks. I'm included. So that majority is off limits to me, and I can't date there. There's the group who isn't worried about looks- I probably won't find one I could like, because I'm worried about looks. That's why I don't try. Last night's episode of Man Seeking Woman describes the best I could hope for in my love life, if that.

Christ man... I almost want to put up pics of my exes but that'd be kinda creepy. I'm an overweight guy who sports a van dyke (Captain Morgan facial hair) and I consistently pull ridiculous hotties that are way out of my league if you looked from a purely superficial/shallow angle. Charisma is worth way more than looks.

And happiness is necessary. There's reams of psychological studies backing it up. It's a requirement of the human condition and will send you to an early grave, as well as making life really fucking suck until you find that early grave.

[Luke]

...So I haven't checked this thread in a while, only to find:

... if I do get sick enough to die, who the hell is going to care? My family, of course, but they would be better off without me.

And happiness doesn't matter. It really doesn't.

Also that someone could possibly mistake Carlin for CK, because ya know, they look and sound completely alike?

Christ, and I'm not even half way through the thread.

What's really shallow is people judging people who know what they are attracted to. If someone thinks the kardashians are pretty, fine by me. They don't float my boat, but so what? Do I find the majority of Victoria's Secret's models attractive? I'm glad I asked. Yes. Do I prefer a "Hollywood-esque" type attractive? Again, I'm glad I asked. Yes.

That doesn't make me shallow. It makes me know what makes me...excited.

Some dudes like obese women, and that doesn't make them shallow. Just means they like more cushion.

So don't point fingers if some people like small boobs, or huge boobs, or short gals, or tall gals, or thin lips, or thick lips... What is attractive is what is up to you, not what you think the majority of people that you think find attractive. Kate Moss and Kate Upton have very little in common, yet they are attractive for different attributes, for example. So please don't call people shallow if the majority of the world find them attractive.

Happiness is, to me at least, the single most important thing in life. Laughter is truly a blessing and being able to wake up, and also fall asleep with a smile makes life worth living. Making others happy is also important, but you always need to be happy by yourself.

I'm an adult who still plays hockey, throws parties with ridiculous themes, hosts poker games and bingo parties, gives friends gag gifts, has secret handshakes, flies kites, plays truth or dare, talks in silly voices*, drives with my head out the car window, performs magic tricks for friends and co-workers, is a party dude, does machines, is rude and crude, etc.

In short, you're never fully dressed without a smile.


*If you talk in a silly voice to someone who responds and reciprocates with the same silly voice, you have met a friend for life.

[oxymoron]

You guys just don't get it.

With respect, it is usually the 18/19 yr old who doesn't get it but thinks he does. In 10-15 you will realize this.

I think he was making a reference to the Farmers Only commerical.

[Jmustang1968]

You guys just don't get it.

With respect, it is usually the 18/19 yr old who doesn't get it but thinks he does. In 10-15 you will realize this.

I think he was making a reference to the Farmers Only commerical.

What is there not to get?

[Forlorn Drifter]

I think he was making a reference to the Farmers Only commerical.

Nope.

What is there not to get?

You just don't get it.

[jp1]

...So I haven't checked this thread in a while, only to find:

... if I do get sick enough to die, who the hell is going to care? My family, of course, but they would be better off without me.

And happiness doesn't matter. It really doesn't.

Also that someone could possibly mistake Carlin for CK, because ya know, they look and sound completely alike?

Christ, and I'm not even half way through the thread.

What's really shallow is people judging people who know what they are attracted to. If someone thinks the kardashians are pretty, fine by me. They don't float my boat, but so what? Do I find the majority of Victoria's Secret's models attractive? I'm glad I asked. Yes. Do I prefer a "Hollywood-esque" type attractive? Again, I'm glad I asked. Yes.

That doesn't make me shallow. It makes me know what makes me...excited.

Some dudes like obese women, and that doesn't make them shallow. Just means they like more cushion.

So don't point fingers if some people like small boobs, or huge boobs, or short gals, or tall gals, or thin lips, or thick lips... What is attractive is what is up to you, not what you think the majority of people that you think find attractive. Kate Moss and Kate Upton have very little in common, yet they are attractive for different attributes, for example. So please don't call people shallow if the majority of the world find them attractive.

Who are you referencing here? I recall having used the term "shallow" but not in a context that would warrant this response. If it was me, we have failed to communicate somewhere, because I agree with what you just said there. Of course, it is entirely possible I missed someone else's post that was inferring these things were shallow.

On the other hand, only considering looks is something I would find shallow. Personality and many other factors should play a role in the relationships you chase, after you have found an initial attraction. Otherwise you are just begging for problems down the line.

You just don't get it.

I think we do, the thing is that we don't all agree with it. It's your life though, live it how you want.