Jmustang1968 wrote:jp1 wrote:Drop the games if you love your wife. It really is that simple. You can find some new activities you both enjoy and make things work. If that doesn't sound reasonable to you then there are bigger problems to be addressed in my opinion.
Sure, compromise...etc...etc...
In the end there is a hell of a lot more to life than playing video games. My wife is cool, so as long as it doesn't involve lying or cheating...I do pretty much whatever I want. In turn "what I want" is most often to just spend time with her. She likes mario games, so if I want to game without excluding her, we play mario. If she asked me to drop the games altogether, I would, without hesitation. I think the knowledge of that fact alone is one of the reasons she wouldn't ever ask.
Why would you want to be with someone who would force you to give up something you enjoy jist because it isn't something she enjoys?
My wife loves to craft. It would be very selfish of me to demand she quit doing that to spend more time with me. I think healthy relationships are ones were you can respect your loved ones personal hobbied and also enjoy time spent together. A balance needs to be struck.
I'm not really disagreeing with that notion. Put simply, I love my wife much more than I care about video games. Like I said, it is probably because she is secure in that fact that she wouldn't ever feel the need to ask me to quit them. Her letting me be myself in every way (and loving me for it, not in spite of it) is also part of the reason that if she made such a request, I'd be obliged to make her happy.
I am looking from the perspective of a 15 year marriage with kids. Perhaps that makes my advice less useful to someone who could, or might want to, make a clean break. I also don't value games in a real life sense, if they caused me any hardships, I would drop them immediately.
Others have valid points as well, its just a different perspective I was offering.
