Next time she says: "Games are a waste of time." Tell her that books are an even bigger waste of time. C'mon, books are the lowest form of entertainment. "Instead of drawing pictures or shooting film, we're going to give you a bunch of text telling what to imagine."
I don't actually feel that way about books, I'm just trying to give you something to say back.
I'm not saying dump the girl, but both partners ought to understand that that they're supposed to support each others interests. She obviously doesn't know that she was out of line, and that's going to be a problem. It sounds to me like you have a new kid, and she's wanting to make you "grow up" a little. You're going to resent the effort to change you, and she's going to resent the fact that you're not changing. This will be a problem and you'll do better to talk it out now instead of just venting on a message board. Just tell her that video games make you happy, and if she wants you to be happy, she'll stop harping on you about it. (Though I probably wouldn't use the word 'harping' )
You don't have to like everything your partner likes. But you do have to accept what they like and be supportive about it.
We are prepared to live in the plain and die in the plain!
I can say from experience that having friends or a girlfriend who don't share your interests is just plain pointless. Hanging around people who don't like the things I do usually just feels like a burden or an annoyance. I respect other people's differences but I spend enough of my life tolerating people with different likes and opinions, when I'm around close friends or a significant other, I want to be myself and actually have fun.
I couldn't stand spending years of my life with someone who's not in sync with me. To me a relationship worth having is two people sharing things and having fun together. Otherwise, it's just a waste of both people's time and a burden. What I love in life comes first, women come second. I live by that rule. If a woman doesn't like what I do, she can just move on. There are other fish in the sea who are more deserving of my time.
Of course, I don't want someone EXACTLY like me. I don't think anyone wants that, but there's some common ground I believe two people in a relationship should have. You have to be similar when it comes to your beliefs and what you love most in life. That's just how I feel and I'm not saying I'm a relationship expert or in any position to tell raztat what to do.
RyaNtheSlayA wrote:
Seriously. Screw you Shao Kahn I'm gonna play Animal Crossing.
So. Raz. Good job having a baby with someone who you can't relate to.
But anyways, I've heard this statement alot. 90% of them women. 10% of them old men. Everything has already been said in this thread. All you can do is name the things she wastes her time on, presumably tv, movies, music, gossip, celebrity idolizing, and every aspect of fashion and decoration.
I can relate to her. We have a lot in common, and I don't think she hates games they just seem to hard for her to understand how to play so she says she hates them cause she dont wanna learn.
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