Problem solved

[benderx]

Why don't you put her on the judge Judy case or a tv judge show. Wait if your mom sold action 52, then that nintendo ds should be your too. Or you could steal her money. steal her clothing, jewelry, purse, and, shoes put it on ebay. Get a save or lock. Go to a hardware store buy your self a lock for your door.



It took me a while to get back my nes games in a cheap. I had to give away my nes and games so that I can have sega genesis. Had to give away my atari 7800, it would have been worth money because most of my games were in CIB. atari 7800 system box was damaged a bit under the bed.

[Incognito D]

I would tell her in no uncertain terms not to pull shit like that ever again.
Really make it clear to her that you are very pissed off.
It sounds like she has no respect at all for your property which is pathetic.

It's hard to comment, because we don't know what your overall relationship with your mother is like, or of any other circumstances, but I think you should really give her a piece of your mind.

[dsheinem]

If she is constantly selling your stuff it sounds like she can't handle her own finances in any way, and it maybe borders on parental negligence and (emotional) abuse. If you wanted her to "learn her lesson" you could try to get her some help via appropriate agencies (the kind route) or get the authorities involved (the not so kind route). I am guessing that you probably love your mom but find this behavior disappointing and perhaps surprising. You don't want her to go to jail, you don't want to have her fined, etc.

I would try to get her some help. Throw her ass in your car and drive her somewhere where other adults can intervene and explain to her why her behavior is wrong, what the consequences could be, and how to get help with financial matters. Storing your stuff at a friend's place is a good stop-gap measure, but it won't address the deeper problem.

[Para]

I feel for you man. You have every right to be upset.

Something similar happened to me years and years ago. My parents have been split up since before I was born, but both households had an NES at them since my brother and I absolutely loved video games.

The majority of my games were kept at home, but I did have a second NES at my dads
house with about six or seven games. When the Super Nintendo came out my NES naturally took a backseat and saw significantly less use for the first little while, so my dad naturally thought it would be alright to lend it to my cousin without asking me. This didn't really bother me too much because they are family after all and I thought it was in good hands. Fast forward years later. Being a retro gamer and having sentimental attachment to all my older games/systems I inquired about getting my old NES back, only to find out it had been sold years ago at a garage sale.

I was very upset for many reasons, and in the end I never really did anything about it. It is hard to complain or do anything in a situation like this since it is dealing with family and already having such a large collection makes me seem greedy and kind of like an asshole. At the end of the day I did lose out on a system and games that I grew up with and had a lot of sentimental attachment to. I eventually replaced all the games and accessories but that took years of going to shitty pawn shops and a decent amount of money that I shouldn't of had to even spend in the first place. I never lost anything overly rare or super expensive so I can imagine how upset you are. (All I lost was an NES Advantage, a Four Score, Wolverine, Vice, Mega Man 3, and a few other common games)

I would suggest going with a mix of all the advice provided on here. Thankfully I don't have to deal with a situation like yours anymore since my family seems to acknowledge and accept my passion. Just try to approach the situation with a little bit of caution and sympathy so you don't come across as greedy, unappreciative, or insensitive or you won't get anywhere. At the same time don't become a push over and follow through with the necessary action required.

If you home life really isn't the ideal situation for you, I would suggest looking into moving in with a relative or friend so you can get on with your life. Right now nothing but your own happiness and well being should be more important to you, so take care of yourself and your own problems while you still can.

Good luck and hide your stuff for now.

[Thierry Henry]

I feel for you man, I really do.
If something like that had to happen to me where my stuff and property were not respected, I'd go absolutely nuts and let the person responsible know in no uncertain terms that I wouldn't tolerate shit like that. It's basically disrespect is what it is. That would really piss me off.

[Ivo]

People we all need to calm down.
Do not forget he IS living at HER house (from what we know) so "solutions" like putting a lock in the bedroom are not really the way to go.

There are clearly other issues at hand as well and maybe the mom is having a hard time managing stuff with this guy's brother. It doesn't excuse her behaviour, particularly as it is not the first time and all that. He does not seem to want to go into more details which is pretty understandable, so lets not judge that much without knowing more.

Ivo.

[Thierry Henry]

Do not forget he IS living at HER house (from what we know)........

Going off on a bit of a tangent here but that part I can't relate to. I've heard others mention it sometimes but when I was still staying at home, my brother and I were never made to feel that way. It was always OUR house.
Anyway, before I lose the topic, yeah I guess Ivo is right with the rest of his post. As he states- we shouldn't really be judging without knowing more.

[Ivo]

Do not forget he IS living at HER house (from what we know)........

Going off on a bit of a tangent here but that part I can't relate to. I've heard others mention it sometimes but when I was still staying at home, my brother and I were never made to feel that way. It was always OUR house.
Anyway, before I lose the topic, yeah I guess Ivo is right with the rest of his post. As he states- we shouldn't really be judging without knowing more.

It seems something happened in May (or a bit before) to prompt this kind of behaviour, from what he wrote. Maybe it was the diagnostic of the younger brother and she hasn't coped well. I hope that she needs help and understanding and will stop this kind of stuff. It is all, unfortunately, rather unfair for him (particularly at 17 years old, but crap like that would be bad at any age, and at least he is almost 18).

Thierry, I understand what you are saying and I relate with your point of view as well, just that my point for that part was that the solution does not go through putting a lock on the bedroom as I can only see that making things worse, and in itself would be illegal without the consent of the mother (AFAIK).

Ideally it should be "their home", not "her house"; but ideally no one would be suggesting putting locks either. Sadly, ideally does not apply here and the mom herself apparently used those terms (in her *flawed* justification to being entitled to anything inside the house).

Ivo.

[Thierry Henry]

That was very well put, Ivo.

[sonix]

From what you've written it looks like your mother tries to compensate your brother for this diagnose, which I assume was heartbreaking for you, through pampering which somehow got out of control, making your mom do some unreasonable actions she rather ungraciously tries to explain when confronted. At the same time she takes advantage over your ability to manage and get by. As far as I can understand the reasons behind her actions (having a hard time, feeling bad for your brother) that's still not an excuse to show disrespect to her own son, because that's what it is. It doesn't matter whether it's "just" games or other stuff, she had no right to sell it to someone, especially since it wasn't bought with her money. I'd be pretty mad if my mom sold/gave away my Guardian Heroes copy for instance, or anything I've got for that matter. The "everything in MY house is mine" talk is bullcrap, although I believe there's a law regarding children and their right to buy etc., like till you reach a certain age you can't actually buy or own stuff, or you need parent's confirmation; at least that's how it is in Poland, dunno about the US, but still it's rare for parents to disapprove their child's purchase and return it or something.

I understand there's more to it, have you tried to talk about this with someone from your family? Hopefully your mom won't get into debt or anything, when she won't find any other way...

PS: From the title I thought it's going to be "my mom disapproves of gaming" rant...