Girlfriend left me for my best friend after four years

[RCBH928]

When bad things happen I can tell to do two things

1)Forget about it, thats not by telling yourself to forget about it. Do anything to make time pass, go out, play games, talk, read. Of course, this is only a way to avoid it.

2)Be with others, being with others makes you forget your own woes , even if its temporary . Probably time heels everything

[s1mplehumar]

Fair warning to all - If this becomes a religious debate it gets locked.

Praying that things will get better won't make them so...

As someone who frequently witnesses the power of prayer (not a placebo effect) I disagree with your statement. The majority of people that mock God, prayer or the Bible know little to nothing about it, spare the popular opinion they borrow from others. The Bible speaks for itself, or as Charles Spurgeon put it....

"Scripture is like a lion. Who ever heard of defending a lion? Just turn it loose; it will defend itself."

I've learned a great deal about the people on these forums

[Ack]

Fair warning to all - If this becomes a religious debate it gets locked.

Just repeating Fastbilly's earlier warning. Plus, shouldn't we be offering Fox our sympathies anyway?

Fox, that sucks. I'm sorry man, and I'm sorry the old things you used to do don't give you the joy they used to. But it's probably for the best anyway. Take some time, cool off, maybe focus on a few things in your life you might have been neglecting lately. Go read a book you've always wanted to read, or learn something new. Try a new genre of film you've never been into. Broaden your horizons and spend time with other friends. You'll be ok.

[dsheinem]

Fair warning to all - If this becomes a religious debate it gets locked.

Praying that things will get better won't make them so...

As someone who frequently witnesses the power of prayer (not a placebo effect) I disagree with your statement. The majority of people that mock God, prayer or the Bible know little to nothing about it, spare the popular opinion they borrow from others. The Bible speaks for itself, or as Charles Spurgeon put it....

"Scripture is like a lion. Who ever heard of defending a lion? Just turn it loose; it will defend itself."

I've learned a great deal about the people on these forums

Well now you went and turned it into a debate!

I'm not going to indulge you, but as someone who grew up as the son of a minister and spent more time in church in the first 20 years of his life than most people do in a lifetime I know Christianity inside and out. I'm a Christian by any theological definition, but have chosen to reject that lifestyle and way of thinking for some VERY good reasons. Suffice to say, I didn't arrive at my current position lightly, and if there was a place for religious debate here I'd be happy to explain why I think you're wrong and I'm right

(By the way whatever happened to the forum redesign mumblings? I was looking forward to a possible debate forum!)

Plus, shouldn't we be offering Fox our sympathies anyway?

Yes, of course - but if we're looking out for him as we should certainly recommend some potential coping strategies or, as the case might be, try to steer him away from those that we believe might make his situation even more painful...

[jp1]

It's obvious you had a shitty girlfriend and a shitty friend. You are better off. Also, you sound young (not a knock) so you most likely have a lot more living to do and you won't even give a shit about this eventually. Just buck up man. Go have some fun and enjoy yourself. Living well is the best revenge.

Also, if they didn't continue to bang behind your back and make you look and feel like a chump you should be grateful for that.

[Ack]

Hmm...well, I don't know about steering him away. We're all different folks, so something that doesn't work for us might work for him. It all depends on how he sees the world. Maybe prayer would help him, or maybe he needs the pornography? Fox'll figure out what he needs, all we can really do is offer suggestions.

[MrPopo]

Maybe prayer would help him, or maybe he needs the pornography?

He could always go with the nun pornography to get the best of both worlds.

[jfe2]

Maybe prayer would help him, or maybe he needs the pornography?

He could always go with the nun pornography to get the best of both worlds.

This gets my vote.

[Limewater]

Maybe prayer would help him, or maybe he needs the pornography?

He could always go with the nun pornography to get the best of both worlds.

I went through something similar in 2002. It really sucks to get an invitation to your ex-girlfriend's wedding three months after she dumped you. It also sucks to accidentally have someone else's invitation accidentally delivered to you and have to hand-deliver it yourself.

Women can hurt you very badly if you let them. That was the only point in my life that I can recall where the idea of naked women had absolutely no appeal to me.

Fox, I don't know all of your situation, but I assure you things will get better.

[porygon]

Don't sweat it. The majority of females commit infidelities, I've experienced it oh so much.

you'll move on eventually, give it time