Girlfriend left me for my best friend after four years

[Dylan]

Everyone can make suggestions, but I think that we shouldn't knock each other's advice.

[sevin0seven]

first: yes, it sucks.

second: you'll get over it eventually.

my suggestion is learn from this experience and move on. there are other fishes (girls) in the sea that you would probably like (love) better anyways. Porn and stuff will only make it worsen for you. just learn how to be with yourself again, and throw out everything that reminds you of this ancient history. Also, your best friend is not your best friend.

good luck with the rest of your life.

third: smile

[ParameterBreach]

menarebetterthanwomen.com

[peglegs]

I have always prefered there are always more pop tarts in the box over fish in the sea.

But yea that shit happens look at it as a learning experience, what you can take away from it to become a stronger person and improve yourself for future relationships.

[RyaNtheSlayA]

Also keep in mind that forgivness isn't a feeling it is a choice. Trust me, I have a lot of feelings towards my mother and what she did to her life, my life, and my fathers life. Yet I forgive her, she had a sickness, and now, we don't have to see her suffer any longer.

So whether you choose to forgive your ex and your friend, is up to you, and just keep in mind that you still have life, and that while this little part may seem horrible and like it will never end, there are plenty of good memories and good things to look forward too.

[wakeup]

Time heals all. Seriously it does, even if you don't believe it right now. It doesn't matter how much you loved your girlfriend, after a few years, you'll have no feelings for her.

And sports/working out is scientifically proven to relax one and make one happier.

I personally like to listen to sad music in times like this because I could feel the music better, but I wouldn't recommend that...unless you really like music...actually I wouldn't recommend it even if you like music.

[Octopod]

I say enjoy your new found freedom and take things as they come. I suggest going out meeting some ladies and getting laid. Fucking new people is always awesome, well, usually anyways. It is fun for everyone involved, hopefully. I have no idea how it leads to some down hill whatever as long as intentions are clear from the beginning.

[Quiet Flight]

Hey, don't listen to these guys that are telling you to resort to free sex or pornography. That stuff only leads to more emptiness.

wat?


don't listen to this

[molotovwars]

Hey, don't listen to these guys that are telling you to resort to free sex or pornography. That stuff only leads to more emptiness.

wat?


don't listen to this

I think what CAv was trying to say is that you should be paying for your sex. Free sex just leads to more emptiness.

[Gamerforlife]

Personally, I'd say spend a little time alone to really let the hurt in. You have to, that's called DEALING with your feelings rather than avoiding them, which is healthy. Eventually though, you do need to get out, hang out with some friends, get back to your hobbies, etc. This will get your mind off of it and will remind you that the universe does not revolve around one single person.

Human beings really lose too much of themselves in relationships. I believe our happiness should never be dependant on another person. Life should rock with or without a significant other. Try to remember that. No one NEEDS a girlfriend, we all just think we do

I agree that prayer is a good idea regardless of whether or not you're religious. I'm not, but I believe that there is SOMETHING out there that hears our thoughts and it does help.

You'll get over it. And then you'll look back and feel silly about how upset you were over her. Eventually, you'll meet someone else and you'll just move on.

Oh yeah, your friend is a jerk.