How do you deal with a major break up

Post by **arion** » Sat Feb 07, 2009 12:44 pm

Just gotta ride it through the first few weeks will be the hardest but eventually it won't hurt so bad.

Movie and gaming recommendations would be anything where shit blows up. Keep it simple so the mind won't go wandering and unintentionally think about the recent break up.

Oh and arkanoid yes there are worse things than breaking up...but there was no need to be a douche.

Post by **Niode** » Sat Feb 07, 2009 2:21 pm

Mozgus wrote: Three Words: Extreme Phallic Chafing

Isn't that a game show on J-TV?

Post by **glynnahab** » Sat Feb 07, 2009 2:33 pm

You could always go the murder/necrophilia/cannibalism route to solve your breakup woes. I'd suggest doing it in that exact order, of course.

Post by **Haoie** » Sat Feb 07, 2009 6:54 pm

Very sorry for your loss.

A similar thing happened to me about 2 years ago too.

It still hurts to think about in detail, sigh.

Post by **aaron** » Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:18 am

MrPopo wrote:I disagree. Unless there are kids involved, if you are getting the feeling that the relationship isn't all that it's cracked up to be then you shouldn't try to prolong it. While sometimes you can work at it and turn the relationship around, frequently what happens is you have two people who stay together while they're unhappy, which just makes for a miserable time. If there's kids you have a responsibility to provide them with a stable home environment (and thus you need to try and work out your differences), but that isn't the case here.

no. if there are children involved and the relationship isn't working, you owe it to your children to end the relationship. do not, under any circumstances, put your child through the exact same turmoil you and your significant other are going through.

sincerely,
billions of kids

also, back on the og topic, i just got dumped by someone i fell harder for than anyone else up to this point, so i feel like i can say this, but if it didn't work out, then it's probably for the best. i know that isn't comforting in the slightest bit, but in time it will work itself out and you'll be alright. good luck, dude.

i posted a similar "tell me what to do" bulletin on myspace right after the breakup and the best response i got was "fuck a sweet, cute girl who isn't your ex."

Post by **CaptainWeasel** » Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:45 am

aaron wrote:i posted a similar "tell me what to do" bulletin on myspace right after the breakup and the best response i got was "fuck a sweet, cute girl who isn't your ex."

That's actually something I wanted to do. All I could recollect was things with the ex, and it always shot my mood to shit. I looked to replace her memories with new ones as fast as I could. It works to an extent, but anything counts in this situation.

Post by **MrPopo** » Sun Feb 08, 2009 1:27 pm

aaron wrote:no. if there are children involved and the relationship isn't working, you owe it to your children to end the relationship. do not, under any circumstances, put your child through the exact same turmoil you and your significant other are going through.

sincerely,
billions of kids"

You misinterpreted what I was saying. If you and your SO just hate each other's guts, then yes, you should end the relationship, as the trauma from staying in an environment like that is worse than the trauma of the divorse. However, if it's a series of little things then you should first go to couple's therapy and try and get a working relationship. Divorse is very hard on kids, so if you can avoid it while providing a decent home environment then you should.

Post by **aaron** » Sun Feb 08, 2009 5:28 pm

MrPopo wrote:
aaron wrote:no. if there are children involved and the relationship isn't working, you owe it to your children to end the relationship. do not, under any circumstances, put your child through the exact same turmoil you and your significant other are going through.

sincerely,
billions of kids"
You misinterpreted what I was saying. If you and your SO just hate each other's guts, then yes, you should end the relationship, as the trauma from staying in an environment like that is worse than the trauma of the divorse. However, if it's a series of little things then you should first go to couple's therapy and try and get a working relationship. Divorse is very hard on kids, so if you can avoid it while providing a decent home environment then you should.

ok, fair enough. animosity retracted. i just cannot back the "stay together for the kids" argument.

Post by **MrPopo** » Sun Feb 08, 2009 7:04 pm

I'm not sure people fully appreciate just how bad divorse is for kids. So if you can provide a home environment that's relatively free of animosity then the kids are going to be far better off. When you have kids you are no longer allowed to think only of yourself.

Post by **Ack** » Sun Feb 08, 2009 7:45 pm

<==========PRODUCT OF A BROKEN HOME

And look how great I turned out.

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