How do you deal with a major break up

[Mozgus]

time heals all, including far WORSE things than breaking up with a girlfriend. you obviously wasn't compatible/"right for each other", otherwise you wouldn't have broken up over such minor details.

tbh, i find it quite pathetic that you're on the internet (and of all places, a video-game forum) asking for "help" coping with your relationship issues. Do you not have any close friends you can talk to? and if you HAVEN'T got any friends then perhaps you should practice building _basic_ friendship-based relationships BEFORE you next to jump in at the deep end and embark on a intricate emotional relationship with a female.

grow up, move on and quit wallowing in self-pity.

that's my advice.

And I thought my post came off as prickish.

[Jrecee]

"At the time of my breakup, I went out and dropped about $600 on a newly released Sega Saturn with a couple of games and didn't leave the house for over a week. I then realized I missed gaming more than I missed my Ex..."

For some reason I wish I could go back in time and spend $600 on a brand new saturn and games. Just to have that peachy outlook I had when I bought my dreamcast and thought, this is going to be the best system ever, I can't wait to see what comes out for it in the future.

[fingersmaloy]

Christ, man, there's always the possibility he's asked for advice in more than one location.

Either way...

I reckon things tend to end when they're supposed to. We get sad when a relationship ends because we have this idea that the perfect relationship will last "forever". But we all die in the end anyway, so even the ones that last "forever" eventually end. This particular relationship ended a lot earlier than "forever" due to incompatibility. If you ask me, that's great. A lot of relationships don't end, in SPITE of incompatibility. You've basically been given a new chance to find something better, and I guarantee you there is something better.

The worst thing that could've happened would've been for you to marry this person. Enjoy your freedom.

Also, music always helps.

[racketboy]

time heals all, including far WORSE things than breaking up with a girlfriend. you obviously wasn't compatible/"right for each other", otherwise you wouldn't have broken up over such minor details.

tbh, i find it quite pathetic that you're on the internet (and of all places, a video-game forum) asking for "help" coping with your relationship issues. Do you not have any close friends you can talk to? and if you HAVEN'T got any friends then perhaps you should practice building _basic_ friendship-based relationships BEFORE you next jump in at the deep end and embark on a intricate emotional relationship with a female.

grow up, move on and quit wallowing in self-pity.

that's my advice.

What's the big deal? I see nothing wrong with it. This is as good of a place to vent as any. I value the opinions here more that those of many people I'm around in "real life".

[RyaNtheSlayA]

time heals all, including far WORSE things than breaking up with a girlfriend. you obviously wasn't compatible/"right for each other", otherwise you wouldn't have broken up over such minor details.

tbh, i find it quite pathetic that you're on the internet (and of all places, a video-game forum) asking for "help" coping with your relationship issues. Do you not have any close friends you can talk to? and if you HAVEN'T got any friends then perhaps you should practice building _basic_ friendship-based relationships BEFORE you next jump in at the deep end and embark on a intricate emotional relationship with a female.

grow up, move on and quit wallowing in self-pity.

that's my advice.

What's the big deal? I see nothing wrong with it. This is as good of a place to vent as any. I value the opinions here more that those of many people I'm around in "real life".

Exactly, this isnt like its the IGN forums, most of the people here are familiar with eachother enough to give decent advice. You sir, are the pathetic one for hatin on somebody thats looking for help. Be gone with you!

[Mozgus]

time heals all, including far WORSE things than breaking up with a girlfriend. you obviously wasn't compatible/"right for each other", otherwise you wouldn't have broken up over such minor details.

tbh, i find it quite pathetic that you're on the internet (and of all places, a video-game forum) asking for "help" coping with your relationship issues. Do you not have any close friends you can talk to? and if you HAVEN'T got any friends then perhaps you should practice building _basic_ friendship-based relationships BEFORE you next jump in at the deep end and embark on a intricate emotional relationship with a female.

grow up, move on and quit wallowing in self-pity.

that's my advice.

What's the big deal? I see nothing wrong with it. This is as good of a place to vent as any. I value the opinions here more that those of many people I'm around in "real life".

I'd much rather have these kind of L.U.E. threads, than the 487th "List all the good games for ___ console!" thread.

[RCBH928]

5 years is some time
maybe you can fix things up
maybe its just a bump up in the road of life

[MrPopo]

I disagree. Unless there are kids involved, if you are getting the feeling that the relationship isn't all that it's cracked up to be then you shouldn't try to prolong it. While sometimes you can work at it and turn the relationship around, frequently what happens is you have two people who stay together while they're unhappy, which just makes for a miserable time. If there's kids you have a responsibility to provide them with a stable home environment (and thus you need to try and work out your differences), but that isn't the case here.

[cloudrat7]

time heals all, including far WORSE things than breaking up with a girlfriend. you obviously wasn't compatible/"right for each other", otherwise you wouldn't have broken up over such minor details.

tbh, i find it quite pathetic that you're on the internet (and of all places, a video-game forum) asking for "help" coping with your relationship issues. Do you not have any close friends you can talk to? and if you HAVEN'T got any friends then perhaps you should practice building _basic_ friendship-based relationships BEFORE you next jump in at the deep end and embark on a intricate emotional relationship with a female.

grow up, move on and quit wallowing in self-pity.

that's my advice.

Of course i have friends and family, but it's good to hear advice from people who are not as close to me, Friends and family tend to give you the advice you want to hear rather than the sad facts. i'm not offended by your remarks, There are plenty of women who are already trying to jump at the chance but i don't want to make any mistakes, I don't know if this is just a temporary thing Or if it's final. There was alot of time and effort put in this relationship. This is the only forum i'm active online. I do get out in the world. I'm not a closet case.

[marurun]

Sounds to me like you're already pretty well balanced and taking the right perspective on this situation. We should be flattered you asked us for advice but I suspect you don't really need it. You seem to have the right course already plotted.

Do be sure to play some games, though. They get lonely when they sit un-used.