very good advice. Kudos to you!MrPopo wrote:When I went through my big breakup I was an emotional wreck. I found that I had to redefine how I saw myself, as when I was with her my sense of self was wrapped up with her. After the breakup I had to learn to love me for me. That's the biggest thing I've found; enjoy being around yourself for a while. Chill out with friends, play some video games, listen to REM's "Everybody Hurts" and Rolling Stone's "You Can't Always Get What You Want", whatever it takes to keep yourself going. In time you will be comfortable as your own person again.
How do you deal with a major break up
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Older. Not wiser.
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One word: gross!
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what would I do?
Not sure, I hate relationships with ladies and I tend to smash them into tiny little pieces before I ever get that far. So I'm usually far from heart broken when they collapse.
But there was one that I did actually get all huffy puffy about. But then again I was drowning myself in large quantities of cocaine and alcohol at the time.
You don't want my advice.
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what would I do?
Not sure, I hate relationships with ladies and I tend to smash them into tiny little pieces before I ever get that far. So I'm usually far from heart broken when they collapse.
But there was one that I did actually get all huffy puffy about. But then again I was drowning myself in large quantities of cocaine and alcohol at the time.
You don't want my advice.
Re: How do you deal with a major break up
Get drunk and bang like you're Charlie Harper.
Kidding. Sort of.
Kidding. Sort of.
Re: How do you deal with a major break up
I dunno, maybe you should go into detail on exactly what you did. . . so he can do the complete opposite.lordofduct wrote:One word: gross!
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what would I do?
Not sure, I hate relationships with ladies and I tend to smash them into tiny little pieces before I ever get that far. So I'm usually far from heart broken when they collapse.
But there was one that I did actually get all huffy puffy about. But then again I was drowning myself in large quantities of cocaine and alcohol at the time.
You don't want my advice.
Re: How do you deal with a major break up
I'm sorry to hear that, I have been there before and it really sucks to have poured a lot of emotion and effort into something to see it go like that. Trust me when I say this, you will find somebody better and if you were already bickering about the little shit, it would not have gotten any better after you were married.
I'm glad I broke my engagement off when I did, because less than a year later, I met my Wife who is an awesome person and I couldn't imagine now being with anybody else. (going on almost 13 years now that I have been married)
At the time of my breakup, I went out and dropped about $600 on a newly released Sega Saturn with a couple of games and didn't leave the house for over a week. I then realized I missed gaming more than I missed my Ex...
I'm glad I broke my engagement off when I did, because less than a year later, I met my Wife who is an awesome person and I couldn't imagine now being with anybody else. (going on almost 13 years now that I have been married)
At the time of my breakup, I went out and dropped about $600 on a newly released Sega Saturn with a couple of games and didn't leave the house for over a week. I then realized I missed gaming more than I missed my Ex...
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Re: How do you deal with a major break up
My only major breakup was tragic. I was a dump of depression and sadness. The bitch left me for another guy who was 7 years older than her and had two kids. As much as I loved her, I felt no compassion for her for destroying me.
To help, I set goals for myself. I noticed that I didn't have as many friends as I would like, so I decided that I would start talking to people I've passed up before. That worked. I decided that I needed to get a job super-quick. That worked. Don't show dependence towards her, that will just push her away. Time will help, but you need to find things to until then. I'm sorry for your loss, it will get better though.
To help, I set goals for myself. I noticed that I didn't have as many friends as I would like, so I decided that I would start talking to people I've passed up before. That worked. I decided that I needed to get a job super-quick. That worked. Don't show dependence towards her, that will just push her away. Time will help, but you need to find things to until then. I'm sorry for your loss, it will get better though.
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Re: How do you deal with a major break up
Listen to this and crank it up, helps me all the time.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G4afP2WHzoM
"Its Never Worth The Pain That You Feel"
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Re: How do you deal with a major break up
The last time a guy asked me this my advice was "Call her, nothing will make her happier than you calling her at 4 am, drunk and from a strip club". The guy couldn't call her because we were in Mexico and she was in Canada 
Re: How do you deal with a major break up
time heals all, including far WORSE things than breaking up with a girlfriend. you obviously wasn't compatible/"right for each other", otherwise you wouldn't have broken up over such minor details.
tbh, i find it quite pathetic that you're on the internet (and of all places, a video-game forum) asking for "help" coping with your relationship issues. Do you not have any close friends you can talk to? and if you HAVEN'T got any friends then perhaps you should practice building _basic_ friendship-based relationships BEFORE you next jump in at the deep end and embark on a intricate emotional relationship with a female.
grow up, move on and quit wallowing in self-pity.
that's my advice.
tbh, i find it quite pathetic that you're on the internet (and of all places, a video-game forum) asking for "help" coping with your relationship issues. Do you not have any close friends you can talk to? and if you HAVEN'T got any friends then perhaps you should practice building _basic_ friendship-based relationships BEFORE you next jump in at the deep end and embark on a intricate emotional relationship with a female.
grow up, move on and quit wallowing in self-pity.
that's my advice.
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