How do you deal with a major break up

Post by **cloudrat7** » Fri Feb 06, 2009 3:50 pm

I've recently broke up with my fiance of almost 5 years and i'm having a difficult time, The reason wasn't anything serious, just minor thing like incompatability issues and arguements here and there which led to the break up. I've never been in a relationship for that amount of time and have it fail so bad, Any advice would be good right now.

Post by **Mozgus** » Fri Feb 06, 2009 4:03 pm

Just remember the good times, take the experiences with you and learn from them. There's so many days when I feel like dogshit, and I tell myself to focus on one happy memory to sponge off of, then I realize I don't have one. At least you have many, I'm sure.

Post by **Ack** » Fri Feb 06, 2009 4:04 pm

Geeze, that sucks. Take a breather, get out of the city if you can for a few days, and try to relax. Eventually you'll feel better about it, but it'll be tough for a little while. Play some games, and don't dwell on it. It's an end to part of your life, sure, but not the finale.

Post by **Scooter** » Fri Feb 06, 2009 4:26 pm

Whatever you do, don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself. Entertain yourself, go out on another date, keep yourself busy with work; whatever it takes. When my strongest long term relationship (up to that point) fell apart I decided I wasn't going to dwell on it and a week later I went on a blind date set up by my friends. I ended up marrying that blind date girl and we've been married nearly 17 years now. I didn't necessarily expect that from the blind date, but at least it kept me from sitting by myself grinding the pain into my own open wounds. And what do you know, it just happened to lead to something better and meaningful in my life. No guarantees, but sitting still and wallowing in dispair certainly won't accomplish anything positive.

Post by **racketboy** » Fri Feb 06, 2009 4:53 pm

I'd say spend a lot of time doing something you really enjoy.
When I've had a hard day, the best medicine is usually playing a good game or watching a good movie or TV series I haven't seen.

Stuff like those that kinda take over your mind/imagination really help....

Post by **IcKy99** » Fri Feb 06, 2009 4:58 pm

Agreed do something to take your mind off things, party with your friends, play games, just get somewhere with activity its better when your having fun.

Post by **Snickerd00dle** » Fri Feb 06, 2009 5:29 pm

time man, time heals

Post by **RyaNtheSlayA** » Fri Feb 06, 2009 5:45 pm

As much as you liked her and everything, just accept that it didnt work out and move on. Thats about all the advice I can give. Mabe you will find someone you love more and totally forget! Only time will tell.

Post by **MrPopo** » Fri Feb 06, 2009 5:59 pm

When I went through my big breakup I was an emotional wreck. I found that I had to redefine how I saw myself, as when I was with her my sense of self was wrapped up with her. After the breakup I had to learn to love me for me. That's the biggest thing I've found; enjoy being around yourself for a while. Chill out with friends, play some video games, listen to REM's "Everybody Hurts" and Rolling Stone's "You Can't Always Get What You Want", whatever it takes to keep yourself going. In time you will be comfortable as your own person again.

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