What Made you Smile/What Ticked you off Today?

[samsonlonghair]

Hey Samson, hang in their buddy. Not that it is any of my business, and not like that will stop me from asking, but did you two have an agreement on the entire "moving out" situation?

Well, it's her place. I don't really have much say in the matter. While I lived with her, I paid the water/sewage/trash bill, and she paid the electric bill. We switched off who paid the internet bill month-by-month.

She's selling the place after she moves. That basically leaves me out. When she moved here, she paid ten percent the value of the home, and her parents paid the other ninety percent. Now that she has graduated, her parents want their money back so the home is going back on the market. Mom and Dad don't care much for the idea of me living with their little girl, and I frankly don't blame them. I'd probably feel the same way in their shoes.

I'm not really sure about my own future. Without her, there's less reason for me to stay in this state. I have spent a lot of time volunteering to help improve my town. Part of me wants to stay and keep improving the town. Another part of me says that I'm falling into a sunk cost fallacy.

I guess I'll keep looking for a new career in another state. That resume you helped me with has come in handy on the job hunt, but I haven't struck gold yet.

As for the near future, She's graduating on Saturday. I need to be moved out on Thursday or Friday. I don't really know where I'm going to be living.

I'm not terribly worried about that because I've been in worse circumstances before. In the past, I've been literally homeless--no home, no car, no job, no friends, no money, walking or bicycling wherever I'm going. Searching for a new place to sleep/hide every night.

By comparison, I have something of a safety net now. I have a part time job and freelance work. I have a car that I own free and clear with no payments to make. I have friends and family I can ask for assistance. I may ask someone if I can rent a room on the cheap. I'll see how it works out.

My dog concerns me. I can't keep her locked in my car all day. She needs a real home more than I do, but I can't leave her alone. I've had her for years, and I feel committed to her. Maybe I'll find a farm or a place in the country that'll rent me a room. That might solve both our problems.

[Luke]

My dog concerns me. I can't keep her locked in my car all day. She needs a real home more than I do, but I can't leave her alone. I've had her for years, and I feel committed to her. Maybe I'll find a farm or a place in the country that'll rent me a room. That might solve both our problems.

Good on you.

A fenced in house is also a great way to go. So many of my friends temd to pal up and rent a house. Four times the income, even if not much income, can lead to a decent shack. And by "shack" I mean home, not an actual shack.

And unless you are over thirty, and your woman friend is graduating high school, why not try to stay together? Again, none of my business.

[samsonlonghair]

Not quite Luke.

I'm twenty-nine; she's twenty-two. She's graduating from college. I guess I should have specified. I assumed it was implied. My mistake.

I'd like to try to stay together. We're not really breaking up; she's just moving away. In one sense that's the worst of both worlds.

She thinks that moving back in with her parents for a few months will give her the savings she needs to put a down payment on a home of her own. She makes a good point here. I just hate being away from her.

[Luke]

We're not really breaking up; she's just moving away..

I have no clue what's going on, but it certainly sounded like a break up so I wanted to wish you the best. I mean no ill will, but I was picking up "My girlfriend is moving out...wants her own place...and needs time to herself". That sounded like splitsville to me.

[samsonlonghair]

Maybe I'm in denial then. She says we're not breaking up. Maybe I'm believing what I want to believe.

[mjmjr25]

Maybe I'm in denial then. She says we're not breaking up. Maybe I'm believing what I want to believe.

She knows her moving means you are now essentially homeless now, right? Hard truth - that certainly sounds like she's moving her entire life in a different direction.

[samsonlonghair]

Yep. Maybe she's playing me for the fool. We spent a lot of time planning our lives together. Maybe it was all a lie.

[Hobie-wan]

Well, it might just be parental pressure. As you said, her parents basically funded the house. I had a vaguely similar situation with a previous girlfriend. I was a few years older an she was finishing up school. I wanted her to be able to move in with me and stay here while she tried to find a job related to her field. Her family was a fairly traditional Hispanic household and even though they liked me despite the fact I'm a godless white boy, there was just no way they were going to let that happen. So she moved back home and worked on finding a job while things became a 3+ hour long distance relationship. She was the oldest of 3 sisters, so I had the "our little girl" things against me too even though she was a well adjusted adult.

Anyway, hope you and her both make progress.

[MrPopo]

My brother got me the Edge Brownie Pan for Chanukah this year. I just made a batch.

Oh my god.

[laurenhiya21]

I hate how Windows 8 is so fussy with old games... I just want to play Tomb Raider