Random Thoughts Thread

[pepharytheworm]

In my experience, it doesn't matter how well you present yourself or how confident you come off, no amount of flirting makes a difference if you aren't attractive. That, as far as I can tell, is literally the only thing that matters in relationships-physical attraction.

You don't really want to be with people who think like that though. Once you're completely secure in yourself and truly love who you are others will too. It's kinda like when you don't need others to feel whole, people will be naturally drawn to you. And it will probably be the type of people you truly would like drawn to you. Hopefully you'll have better experiences that show you not everyone is about physical attraction.

[MrPopo]

I'll believe that when I see people actually caring about each other on a deeper level. As long as people cheat in otherwise good relationships, I will continue to believe that physical beauty is all that matters to humans.

First fatal flaw in this logic: you're assuming the relationship was totally fine. I guarantee there was some issue going on that probably wasn't being voiced. And the issue might have been as simple as "we don't have sex as often as I would like", or it could be a more complex lack of some emotional need being met. And then of course there's the people who can't handle stable relationships and need to inject chaos due to their own personal issues.

And confidence changes nothing. Everytime I've been confident about something, I have failed. Going in expecting the worst or just going in apathetic? Everything worked out fine.

I really wish I had admin powers so I could change your username to "Optimistic Drifter" to hopefully give you a better outlook on life.

[ZeroAX]

I really wish I had admin powers so I could change your username to "Optimistic Drifter" to hopefully give you a better outlook on life.

Why don't you have admin powers?

[Forlorn Drifter]

First fatal flaw in this logic: you're assuming the relationship was totally fine. I guarantee there was some issue going on that probably wasn't being voiced. And the issue might have been as simple as "we don't have sex as often as I would like", or it could be a more complex lack of some emotional need being met. And then of course there's the people who can't handle stable relationships and need to inject chaos due to their own personal issues.


I really wish I had admin powers so I could change your username to "Optimistic Drifter" to hopefully give you a better outlook on life.

I call bullshit, people cheat simply because physical attraction is the only thing important. Its biology. People are attracted to "good looking" people because they display traits that show good genes, and thus would make better offspring. If the opportunity to create better offspring comes up, it gets taken. Simple as that.

Changing my name would obviously not help, and sound quite stupid.

[prfsnl_gmr]

<sigh>

I don't think you are correct on this point, and I think that you should probably wait until you have more experience with serious relationships or with people in serious relationships before making broad generalizations like this.

[dedalusdedalus]

literally the only thing that matters in relationships-physical attraction.

[flex wood]

That right there is a excellent reason not to drink.

[AppleQueso]

lol Forlorn Drifter

[Erik_Twice]

That, as far as I can tell, is literally the only thing that matters in relationships-physical attraction.

Being frank, I don't think you are in a position to tell anyone what matters in a relationship or not, Forlon.

You seem to think relationships are a 1950s movie in which the jacket-wearing stud bangs the school's cheerleader in a a car and mock the nerd because he isn't getting laid. People have lives outside of having sex, they talk to each other and play and have fun together and confide their secrets or ask for advice and a hug. And not even sex can be reduced to "physical attraction" unless you think sex is nothing more than sticking something into a hole which given your view of relationships wouldn't surprise me.

And this attitude arises, quite simply, because you want sex and relationships and you aren't having either. It's clear you want them, and instead of doing something to get them you try to diminish its importance. The same goes to confidence and everything else you rant about, it's nothing new.

[alienjesus]

Trying to convince Forlorn_Drifter to drop his narrow minded worldview of relationships isn't going to happen guys. Just leave him to it and he'll figure it out one day