Random Thoughts Thread

[TSTR]

luke is a pretty cool guy
eh sales stuf and doesnt afraid of anythign

[pepharytheworm]

EDIT: I think you would be better off - and equally motivated - by thinking that you are better than everyone at everything and steadfastly refusing to be proven wrong.

Yeah, that's great advice, be a douchebag.

Don't knock it 'til you try it. I think you will find it makes you more successful at just about everything and - as long as you don't over do it - not a douchebag.

That kind of mindset causes a lot of problems in the world. Believing in ones self is one thing, but deluding is another. Perception is reality is terrible advice, reality is reality, truth is truth. Who cares just how successful you are it's way more important how you got to be successful . It's good to have a destination but the journey should be as, if not more important.

[prfsnl_gmr]

OK, people. Chill out. I was just trying to tell FD that, rather than thinking he is worse than most people, he should - for a change - try thinking he is better.

Perception is not reality, but it certainly colors it. If you always assume that you will do poorly, then - most of the time at least - you probably will. If, on the other hand, you expect to do better - and work to ensure that you will succeed - then you will probably find that your successes quickly outnumber your failures in all aspects of your life.

I am not advocating self-delusion, narcissism, or sociopathy. I do, however, encourage confidence and positive-thinking, and I think that they are critical to success.

[ZeroAX]

OK, people. Chill out. I was just trying to tell FD that, rather than thinking he is worse than most people, he should - for a change - try thinking he is better.

Perception is not reality, but it certainly colors it. If you always assume that you will do poorly, then - most of the time at least - you probably will. If, on the other hand, you expect to do better - and work to ensure that you will succeed - then you will probably find that your successes quickly outnumber your failures in all aspects of your life.

I am not advocating self-delusion, narcissism, or sociopathy. I do, however, encourage confidence and positive-thinking, and I think that they are critical to success.

+1

(And I really think flirting is the best field for them to realize the importance of what you are saying )

[Forlorn Drifter]

In my experience, it doesn't matter how well you present yourself or how confident you come off, no amount of flirting makes a difference if you aren't attractive. That, as far as I can tell, is literally the only thing that matters in relationships-physical attraction.

[ZeroAX]

In my experience, it doesn't matter how well you present yourself or how confident you come off, no amount of flirting makes a difference if you aren't attractive. That, as far as I can tell, is literally the only thing that matters in relationships-physical attraction.

. I'm sorry, but no. Of course physical attraction matters (you can't weigh 120 kilos and expect to date a super model), but not as much as you state it. For both sexes the most important things are being fun and interesting, and both of those things have a lot to do with being confident. You can't do anything about your looks, but you can be the most fun guy/girl the person has ever met

[prfsnl_gmr]

You can't do anything about your looks, but you can be the most fun guy/girl the person has ever met

I will disagree with ZeroAX here. Confident people that take care of themselves and do their best to look their best are generally attractive regardless of natural beauty. Accordingly, there are many, many things you can do to improve your appearance.

Regardless, appearance only gets your foot in the door when it comes to relationships. A positive, fun, and generally good personality is what keeps you in the room.

[Forlorn Drifter]

I'll believe that when I see people actually caring about each other on a deeper level. As long as people cheat in otherwise good relationships, I will continue to believe that physical beauty is all that matters to humans.

And confidence changes nothing. Everytime I've been confident about something, I have failed. Going in expecting the worst or just going in apathetic? Everything worked out fine.

[BoneSnapDeez]

OK, people. Chill out. I was just trying to tell FD that, rather than thinking he is worse than most people, he should - for a change - try thinking he is better.

[ZeroAX]

I will disagree with ZeroAX here. Confident people that take care of themselves and do their best to look their best are generally attractive regardless of natural beauty. Accordingly, there are many, many things you can do to improve your appearance.

Regardless, appearance only gets your foot in the door when it comes to relationships. A positive, fun, and generally good personality is what keeps you in the room.

Ok obviously you should look the best you can (I'm personally at fault of not doing this, having extra weight and not paying too much attention to what I wear), but I still believe that confidence attracts people a lot more than most of us are willing to admit.

Me too, I once met a girl in a group who I first thought was not pretty (below average, borderline "ugly"), but with her confident strong character she got my attention and even hooked me a bit. On the other hand I've had pretty girls who were lacking confidence so much they made me get bored very fast.


Or maybe that's just me, who knows