MrPopo wrote:
Again, I agree completely that she really did a shitty job of managing her life. And I get the retribution angle. But the fact of the matter is that if she does carry the child to term she is now responsible for that child's wellbeing. It is not fair to the child to force it to be raised in those circumstances. The other option is to give the kid up for adoption, but that still holds the woman hostage as an incubator. It's fine if her personal belief is that she should carry the child to term, but that wasn't the case here.
See, the fact that you have a cap on what's acceptable means you don't really want to know. You're just telling yourself that because you're still in the part of your life where everything is theoretical. It's like how you theoretically wouldn't engage in activity X for money. I guarantee that there is some amount of money that if it were right in front of you, you would do anything.
Putting the woman under the knife just to extract the embryo is pretty extreme, in my opinion. It might be routine, but there's still risk whenever you open up the body for surgery. And until near the end of the pregnancy the fetus is essentially a part of the woman's body, like any other organ. So final say should be with her. But I also feel that the act of transmitting your seed to a woman shouldn't make you financially entangled with the resulting child. With all the forms of birth control out there, as well as the abortion option, there is no reason anyone should get accidentally pregnant anymore.
Its the woman's personal opinion on whether or not she can raise it, that I understand and agree with. I just don't like how the article makes it seem like no big deal. In some cases, it isn't, but I know multiple women who have had abortions and came to regret it, or been caused emotional/mental stress over it all. I understand that the article was meant to help women who do choose to get one feel like they've made a good decision, so my view is really moot in that light.
Its not a hypothetical for me, I would absolutely feel responsible for the potential child if I was to get someone pregnant, and I would want to be involved. I would want the child even if the woman wouldn't, which would more than likely cause a shitstorm of problems and leave me more than likely emotionally hurt over the ordeal. I would also attempt marriage and the whole shebang, but that probably wouldn't work in a lot of cases.
I did point out that a surrogate option wouldn't be in line in most cases. But then again, although the procedure tends to be a lot safer, an abortion is still a form of medical procedure which can have complications.
Really though, the fact that the woman was idiotic enough not to be on birth control is mind boggling to me.
