Random Thoughts Thread

[Forlorn Drifter]

I don't apply that to other people, just myself. I just don't feel responsible doing something like that. My happiness is not important if I have others dependent on me. I just think about the fact that, when I look at the types of jobs I'd be interested in, I wouldn't ever be able to really support a family well enough for me to feel satisfied with it, let alone if I was spending the money on the side for music.

I personally don't find my own art rewarding, as I don't really see many people getting anything out of it. I don't really get anything out of it than expressing myself, and that does me little good.

[GirlGamer55]

You know those console sprites people have in their sigs? Where can I get a Magnavox 2 one? I'v seen the original but not the 2nd one...

[RCBH928]

Any one know what is the name of this Nokia ringtone:

[Forlorn Drifter]

What are the chances of me actually making doing good enough to support myself?

Well, they are higher than your chances of picking up women with that attitude of yours, I suppose.

Just saw this one. Did that really need to be said?

[Xeogred]

Okay so hopefully some experienced individuals see this.

I have had this on and off crush with this woman at work for the last two years, whom has been married 11 years (so yeah game over I know), but no kids. Anyways we've had one of the best friendships ever and things have escalated again since my birthday just passed and her getting everyone together to take me out to dinner among all this other stuff... everybody else see's it as a mutual thing between her and I and that she's possibly conflicted.

This is probably the most confusing thing that has come about in my life. I feel like, to at least bring myself some peace, I should confront her about it, confess, and see where we stand in her point of view.

Is that a good thing to do, or not?

The catch is she's Filipino. I think she's only been in America since she's been married, so for 11 years or something. So that's where it gets a little more complicated. There's definitely a culture barrier here. It's selfish for me to assume and wonder so much about her husband but I just can't help but wonder if he went over there and kind of just picked her out, and now this is her time to experience something a bit more genuine, getting attention, flirting, and so on. She is a very giving person in general, but I've always gotten extra care and again everyone else at work sees it. Something happened Thursday that made her sound like she is still somehow clueless about it all. The scary thing is if I do bring myself to confront her, I have no idea what her reaction could be. I'd hate to hurt her and vice versa, I don't want this friendship to change and that's what really matters, but this situation has definitely been killing me a bit again lately. I just have to somehow find a way to deliver my feelings and get it over with so I can move on without confusing her.

Again, two years worth of material here, lots of situations, texting, so on, I can't even begin to scratch the surface of how it's all led up to this. Apparently, my friend got some info that this has happened before with another guy who had to just stop talking to her and she had to go to her husband to figure out what was wrong. That's where it gets challenging, she just has to know that if she is this caring, honest, and open with a single guy out there, someone might get the wrong idea. I wouldn't want her to change and I know saying something along those lines would be really hurtful to her, but yeah. If the feelings aren't mutual she needs to know to be a little careful.

Somehow I just need to find clarity in this situation.

[CRTGAMER]

Okay so hopefully some experienced individuals see this.

I have had this on and off crush with this woman at work for the last two years, whom has been married 11 years (so yeah game over I know), but no kids. Anyways we've had one of the best friendships ever and things have escalated again since my birthday just passed and her getting everyone together to take me out to dinner among all this other stuff... everybody else see's it as a mutual thing between her and I and that she's possibly conflicted.

Somehow I just need to find clarity in this situation.

Great that you want to open up here on the Forum, but for something like this maybe should get advice from close friends and family over distant contacts on a forum site. That said, for me a married woman should just be a friend and nothing more.

[Erik_Twice]

Just saw this one. Did that really need to be said?

Probably not. I was in a bad mood, sorry about it.

[Xeogred]

Great that you want to open up here on the Forum, but for something like this maybe should get advice from close friends and family over distant contacts on a forum site. That said, for me a married woman should just be a friend and nothing more.

Yep, probably what I'll do. I've told some people at work but they're at a loss about it all too, though there is a close friend of the chick I like that I can trust so I'll probably go to her about this.

Very strange stuff. lol

[ZeroAX]

um....aren't you like 26 mate? How old is this woman who's been married for 11 years? Sorry I'm just curious if there's an age difference too.

[BoneSnapDeez]

I wouldn't get caught up in any drama with a married woman. Especially not a married woman you work with. No way that ends well.