his point by that response was that how he may come across here on the forum isn't really a good mirror for who he actually is.Golgo 14 wrote:Thanks for the welcome, Steve. I'm Fred.Mozgus wrote:I'm Steve. Pleased to meet ya and welcome to the forums.Golgo 14 wrote:I'm not interested in casual sex, but I wouldn't side with you in this because your view of women is pretty ugly. You see yourself as good-natured and sensitive, open to a meaningful relationship with someone you respect, but you're not impressed by women and you see them as manipulative and privileged, acting in ways you find repulsive. Are you a gallant knight or a misogynist pig?
Anyway, internet demeanor is hardly representative of real life demeanor. Don't assume that you know anything about how I act based on some text.
I gathered from your posts that you haven't had much success with women and it seemed like that experience led you to unfavorable views on an entire gender. It happens, I know.
When I was in college (and not having any luck with girls) I wrote a paper about the social scene that bemoaned the game-playing and superficiality of casual relationships. Years later when things had changed a bit for me, I found that paper and thought, "damn, I was one bitter bastard".
Just because a lot of people are casual about sex and love, doesn't mean you have to be. Once I found a relationship on my own terms, it suddenly didn't matter to me that other people behave in ways that I wouldn't. Your experiences change your views. Sometimes for the better.
It's highly likely a lot of people act very different on the internet then they do in the real world. And may harbor varying "opinions" from the real world to the web world. This can be because they can spout their true beliefs out of anonymity, or because they like to explore other supposed opinions to learn more about it, amongst other reasons. I have meet forum users who pretended to be the opposite gender not for the attention, but out of utter paranoia someone would figure out who they actually were.
As for me, I sometimes will take on certain opinions I don't agree with actually to learn more about said view through the responses of other people. Some call that argumentative, a debater who creates conflict for the sake of conflict, and for some reason shun it. But take a debate course and you will notice you often take the side of a topic that you probably don't agree with. The reasons is to train yourself as a debater, but also get an unbias view of the topic from the other side of the table. Otherwise known as "wearing someone else's shoes for a day".
Basic interwebs 101.
