Had a go with another method, an amalgumation of various techniques tried so far (a few posts into one here):
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Right, this one looks like it will work great! Did a prototype with one unit (as described in previous postings), ran it along 3 different sets of contacts on my construction and all worked. Simple idea, which are always the best ones, I now need to make it properly. There is virtually no resistance as the slider moved across (only 1 contact pin not 18 but was to prove the principle), the contact pin literally brushed onto the contact points.
So, I might FINALLY have cracked this!
Couple of pics:


There is enough play on the foam pad to do the job, it is drilled though, and also superglued in place so it's not going anywhere. The black dividers (I need to make them a bit taller) are to stop the pins rotating, and the wire through the wood, which keeps the pin in place, works.
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Finished making my first set of 9 contacts (ie half done). Waiting for the superglue to finish drying - added more to make sure the glue got everywhere. The foam pad pieces didn't work in the end, making the gap in the spaces 1mm less, as needed to make the proper ones meant the pads were too cut and drilled so didn't function, however based on my previous attempts, made the wire twisted to be stronger and using the natural spring in the wire itself for my ends. I think this will work this time, will give it a test later, before making the other set of 9 contacts.
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Ran the unit back and forth over the connectors several times, and tested for continuity and each connection worked (all 9). I'm taking that as success - to make the other unit. This is about my 5th or 6th attempt using different methods, finally got one that works!






