Well since you seemed keen on some of the other advice, you may consider this too...Xeogred wrote:Good idea guys. My sister and I went through this big group therapy thing two years back that really helped our relationship a lot, but there's still some patches. It's not that we ever butted heads, but the age gap just distanced us over the years. Now that we're both adults though that's different. But something in writing might be best for her.
An update on what happened last night: My parents came back home. Cancelled the vacation to come home and help her out. I guess last night my sister's boyfriend brought a bunch of random people into the house with him, without her knowing that before he came over. If I would've known that whole detail, probably would've kicked some teenager ass last night or called the cops (this is what pissed off my parents the most, just a bunch of strangers being in the house).
The bad news though is that my parents and sister just got ready and left for the ER, probably for the weekend. My sister has hurt herself before and my mom said she was apparently afraid of doing it again (so NO, she didn't hurt herself or anything serious here. So she was just admitting herself to that confinement or something). And again, she's now pregnant. I've slipped into depressions myself, but the suicidal thoughts or self-inflicting pain ideas... I can't fathom them. This is the second time she's admitted herself to some hospital because of the hurtful ideas apparently.
I just want to slap her really hard. Out of love, of course. So I'll probably just have to slap her with words. But having been through mental struggles myself, I can understand how these things aren't so simple. But damn it's all frustrating...
I'm still kind of just speechless about the whole situation myself. I don't know if my parents got this through to her head, but if she were to ever hurt herself now and for the coming year, she would LITERALLY be hurting someone else (baby). An absolute fact. I kind of feel like texting her that, but I dunno.
I think I'll write up a letter tonight though. Just going to vomit all my random thoughts on everything.
Be very reserved with explaining the hurt she causes you and your folks, but be very forthcoming about how much you care for her, your unborn niece/nephew, your future relationship with her/them, etc. I think giving her the letter and saying that you want her to promise she'll read it should be enough to make her take notice, filling a letter with a litany of her sins isn't really going to help much. She needs to know she can depend on you for comfort and support when she is going through these rough patches, not that you are going to endlessly complain about how her bad decisions are hurting everyone else. Let her know you have been hurt by her bad choices, but don't go into an explanation of all the details as it may be a bit traumatic for her while she is obviously dealing with some other stuff.
Just .02 more.
