Xeogred wrote:
It's not my business but I want to tell her...
My .02:
She's your sister, so I think it absolutely is your business. I'd find some way to rationally and calmly tell her everything you are thinking (maybe even in writing) so that she at least knows that you love her and are worried about her and about what she's doing to the family. You'll feel worse if she goes further off the deep end without at least saying something.
@Xeogred
I agree with Dave. If you haven't already expressed your concerns clearly to your sister, you should. If face to face is too hard, written might work as he said. I had a self destructive friend (ok I had several) in high school. I tried to help and they always said they'd 'do better', but they'd just go do something else to screw things up. I finally had to give up on the one friend, but at least I know I tried my best to help. It would probably be eating away at me if I hadn't put forth an effort. Doubly so if they were family.
@Ryan
Sounds like it was just a fender bender, not a 'wreck', so not too bad. You're also not lying bisected by the door, so you'll live it seems.
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An 8yo boy fell through a road and into a sewer drain, and the water was running through the drain at an estimated 25 miles an hour, he popped up at a different drain over a mile away - and is "ok".
Good idea guys. My sister and I went through this big group therapy thing two years back that really helped our relationship a lot, but there's still some patches. It's not that we ever butted heads, but the age gap just distanced us over the years. Now that we're both adults though that's different. But something in writing might be best for her.
An update on what happened last night: My parents came back home. Cancelled the vacation to come home and help her out. I guess last night my sister's boyfriend brought a bunch of random people into the house with him, without her knowing that before he came over. If I would've known that whole detail, probably would've kicked some teenager ass last night or called the cops (this is what pissed off my parents the most, just a bunch of strangers being in the house).
The bad news though is that my parents and sister just got ready and left for the ER, probably for the weekend. My sister has hurt herself before and my mom said she was apparently afraid of doing it again (so NO, she didn't hurt herself or anything serious here. So she was just admitting herself to that confinement or something). And again, she's now pregnant. I've slipped into depressions myself, but the suicidal thoughts or self-inflicting pain ideas... I can't fathom them. This is the second time she's admitted herself to some hospital because of the hurtful ideas apparently.
I just want to slap her really hard. Out of love, of course. So I'll probably just have to slap her with words. But having been through mental struggles myself, I can understand how these things aren't so simple. But damn it's all frustrating...
I'm still kind of just speechless about the whole situation myself. I don't know if my parents got this through to her head, but if she were to ever hurt herself now and for the coming year, she would LITERALLY be hurting someone else (baby). An absolute fact. I kind of feel like texting her that, but I dunno.
I think I'll write up a letter tonight though. Just going to vomit all my random thoughts on everything.
