Question to the Married or Long-Term Relationship People

[donssword]

Sounds like you just sort of stepped in "it."

The solution is real easy, just keep the ones you know she bought you. Even if you view trading as part of the gaming hobby, you should keep in mind that she put some thought and effort into buying you that gift, whether it was a game you wanted or not, and you shouldn't just casually give/sell/trade something like that away, because for better or worse, it still has mening for her too.

My brother had a yard sale a few years back, where he sold the Avirex flight jacket I bought him for being the best man in my wedding 15 years prior. It wasn't one of the $30 imitation flight jackets, it was a high-end jacket that I shopped weeks to find the best price on, and it still set me back close to $100. He sold it for $15. There are few times in my life I have ever been as pissed off as I was that day.

Its funny that "things," objects, can convey meaning beyond their original intent, but it just is the way it is. Keep track of what she bought, and don't sell 'em. Loosing half an inch of shelf space costs a lot less than a girl who won't buy you something you want without asking.

[The Last Horseman]

This is really dependant on the other party. Some girls its about the sentimental value, others the physical value, and some just don't understand that a game might suck. I always joke about liking ugly and dumb stuff, and some things I sincerely do like, but every girl I've hung out with can't discern which stuff I like and what I'm just joking about. Family and close friends can, but so few others have the ability...

[dsheinem]

I really don't understand the impulse of people to look for relationship advice on a gaming forum - even if the topic is gaming-related.

Instead, your best bet would probably be to talk to some of your mutual friends, maybe her sister/mother if she has one, etc. Get a feel for what they think she is expecting if you aren't sure yourself. At the very least, your concern about here feelings would probably get back to her if you did that...

Have you actually - gasp! - brought this up with her?

and yes, I recognize the irony of giving advice in the same post that I suggest not seeking advice from posts. shut up.

[Nintendork666]

I've really lucked out with my gf of 4 years. When we first started dating, she had pretty much zero interest in gaming.

Slowly but surely, I've converted her into a gamer. She even plays titles like Ikaruga or KoF with me. Her favorites will always be Galaga, Tetris, and Ms. Pacman however - games she used to own on GBC when she was younger.

Since I've been playing Skyward Sword, she's become interested in the franchise. So I lent her my GBA SP and A Link to the Past. She can't put the damned thing down!

She lets me trade/sell whatever I want however, since I rarely ever feel like parting with anything - but I think she'd be upset if I got rid of something she had interest in playing.

My wife gets mad at me for the opposite reason, she wants me to trade and sell games as she thinks I'm "hoarding" them (for the record, I've never gotten rid of a game).

Some people just don't understand.

[BurningDoom]

@dsheinem

Wasn't looking for advice. Just seeing if anyone else had a similar issue with their significant other, like the post said. Everything ended up fine with it, as I have and am playing Skyrim (fan-freaking-tastic for anyone still one the fence about it).

[dsheinem]

@dsheinem

Wasn't looking for advice. Just seeing if anyone else had a similar issue with their significant other, like the post said. Everything ended up fine with it, as I have and am playing Skyrim (fan-freaking-tastic for anyone still one the fence about it).

Fair enough, though many of the replies seemed to dole it out anyway

[brunoafh]

My gf honestly doesn't care what I do, ever (so long as it's not offensive to her or anything). It's awesome.

[Yancakes]

Pretty sure the only game my wife has ever bought for me was NHL 10, a couple of years ago. She certainly understood when I traded that, mainly because she's familiar with the way EA handles their sports franchises.

Otherwise, she just lets me buy my own games and gets me other stuff when she wants to get me a present...

[J T]

It's generally wise to never sell any gift your girlfriend/wife buys you.

[s1mplehumar]

My wife doesn't seem to mind If i part with a Christmas, Birthday game, what have you. What does bother her is when she goes down into the basement for random "inspections" and she finds 4 new boxed arcade sticks stacked neatly on my shelves. "Why do you need a dozen of these things for the same system?" "Do you plan on playing with 11 other people?"

Admittedly, I spend 10x more than she does on just about any given item, be it video games or more luxurious groceries. I can see where she's coming from. She spends the majority of her portion of the "play cash" on books, and truly not too many at that. I on the other hand am either buying, selling, or trading something almost constantly. I completely acknowledge that my habit is wasteful and unproductive....not unlike many other hobbies.

I'm really trying to make a habit of actually playing my games instead of adding more sealed new releases to the pile. Even the binging on Steam sales is ridiculous. Yes, insert random rpg is xx$ today, but it doesn't matter if it sits in the backlog for 3 years. Anywho.....I'm just talking nonsense now.