Such a strange... date?

[mjmjr25]

Wise Mike is wise.

It was just Mike to the playa's that knows, as a matter of fact, Icy Mike cause he was cold on them hoes.

-Shock G

I thought we had settled on Iceberg Mike for yr stagename. No?

I thought that was a private convo when she said it "feels" like the Titanic. Is nothing sacred?

[noiseredux]

I thought that was a private convo when she said it "feels" like the Titanic. Is nothing sacred?

titanic? I thought she said "icicle"? Nevermind, I'll take it to the PM's...

[equalsign]

Sounds like a date to me! Good job! Remember, silence doesn't have to be awkward. If the conversation dies for a while it isn't the end of the world unless you start freaking out. Good luck man!

Also, you shouldn't feel the need to take her somewhere "nice" too soon. Nice places should be a special occasion, not a second date. Many women I know freak out when a guy takes them somewhere "too nice" for the second date because they perceive it as him getting serious too quickly. Other times they're upset because they see it as him trying way too hard and being desperate to impress her. It's unflattering. Pick somewhere you can feel at ease.

You shouldn't think that you need to be friends BEFORE you get into a relationship. Romance and friendship can develop together. If you want to date her and think of her romantically it's fine for you to pursue that direction. I'm not saying you need to spell it out or say so right away, but it shouldn't be a mystery for her. She should know.

Most guys never even get that first date/"hangout" with girls they like. You've made a ton of progress already. Congrats! Remember that most relationships and sparks don't work out. Keep it in perspective. If you get too emotionally involved and stressed out you may kill it before it has a chance to be anything.

Just general advice. It sounds like much of this won't be an issue for you though. Good luck again!

[AznKhmerBoi]

to truly justify the failer and success of this date, what was her facial and bodily expression when you gave her a hug?

[equalsign]

If you want to know if "this is a date." - ask her. If you want to know if she's enjoying herself, ask her.

This is super solid advice.

[Key-Glyph]

I think it's going fine. Go bowling next time. Everybody likes bowling except the people that don't.

Bowling! Yes!

Dude, she sounds awesome, and so do you.

Don't let the expectations and connotations attached to the concept of "a date" make you second-guess yourself. My husband and I hung out together in group situations for months as friends, then blathered our feelings to each other, then labeled ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend, then went on our first official dinner date (which was formal attire at IHOP).

I second the idea of making the next day together an activity. Not only does it fit your personality types better (not so talkative in person), but it will allow you to really be yourselves. If my husband and I had gone to dinner in a fancy restaurant before we'd known each other better, I would not have acted naturally. I'd've been too distracted by things like, "Does he think I'm expecting him to pay?", "Am I supposed to me more dressed up?", and "How much can I really learn about somebody this way?" Go to an aquarium, a roller rink, an amusement park, a funky diner with jukeboxes in the booths. The pressure will be off and you'll be doing interesting stuff besides, while seeing the sort of person she is when she's just going about living.

While we were dating my husband and I always traded off who paid at a restaurant, which was a pattern that just materialized without discussion. Maybe next time offer to cover her half of the bill to make it even; it's thoughtful, and makes you a team.

I would say don't worry too much about seemingly like you're getting "too serious." Just be honest in your feelings, and if you want to be around her a lot, try to be around her a lot. Not all women want to play a game, to maintain ambiguity and keep men guessing. Before my husband and I had admitted our feelings to each other, all I wanted was for him to genuinely like me, and to have it spelled out ASAP. That's really as far as I was thinking: "Let him have a crush on me! Please! Pleasepleaseplease he's so great! And I hope he's say so right away if he did because I'm too scared to say it first and keeping this secret is making me crazy!!"

[Original_Name]

Alright everybody, update: second date went better than I ever could have anticipated. (Nothing like that, this girl's special. I'm taking it slow.)

Just taking another opportunity to thank everyone, and filling in anyone who may have been curious as to how things were progressing.

[sevin0seven]

Alright everybody, update: second date went better than I ever could have anticipated. (Nothing like that, this girl's special. I'm taking it slow.)

Just taking another opportunity to thank everyone, and filling in anyone who may have been curious as to how things were progressing.

good to hear. keep it up.

[Luke]

Alright everybody, update: second date went better than I ever could have anticipated. (Nothing like that, this girl's special. I'm taking it slow.)

Just taking another opportunity to thank everyone, and filling in anyone who may have been curious as to how things were progressing.

good to hear. keep it up.

Sounds more like he's keeping it down. wocka wocka.

Seriously, that's great man. It sounds like you are really infatuated with this girl, and that you two are really starting to clique (yes I realize I used a noun as a verb, but it remains a common expression).

I hope for the best for you two as you come off as being head over heels right now, which is an incredible and wonderful feeling. Keep that spark going!

[Haoie]

The important thing is you went for it. The end result, well that's hardly your fault was it?

Chicks are complex.