Such a strange... date?

[gtmtnbiker]

http://www.racketboy.com/forum/viewtopi ... ice+ladies

Yes, you have to listen to Budsmoka if you want to be successful.

[mjmjr25]

Accidentally post a link to this thread on her facebook page.
She'll be pleased to know your consulting the video game nerds on how to proceed.

Or - in the arena of good advice - just outright ask / say anything that you are thinking.

Your asking us how to "act" - anytime you are "acting" your obviously not yourself and the person who's company she may or may not be enjoying is not you, its the person your pretending to be so she'll like "you".

If you want to know if "this is a date." - ask her. If you want to know if she's enjoying herself, ask her. Cliche's become cliche's because real life happens enough times that they become cliche'. So, my cliche' for you - BE YOURSELF, and don't overthink it.

Overthinking it is for important things like this

[ZenErik]

Wise Mike is wise.

[noiseredux]

I'll just go ahead and say "/thread" now.

[Original_Name]

First off, I'd like to thank everyone for their advice, even the joking ones (now, thanks to Budsmoka, I'll be doubly certain not to work out so much that my dick starts to shrink. To think how close I was to being another victim to that simple, bone-headed mistake). This place really is more than just a games board when I can come in here and ask for real advice and feel like I'm asking real friends. ...okay, I'm not crying, but I really do appreciate it alot.

fvgazi, yeah, I realized after I wrote that that it's probably not the best idea to phrase it that way. Instead I think I'll just be really natural about it and call to ask her she'd like to get a bite to eat again when she's done with class. If she has time, we can head up to the Opryland Hotel where they've just set up all the Christmas stuff. It would be difficult to explain to people outside of Nashville just how flexible that place is. It's this massive indoor garden with elaborate pathways and gondolas and light-shows and shops, but it's free to get in. The place is pretty much what you make of it. You get people going on second honeymoons and 13-year-olds finding a place to amble around after smoking their first joints all in the same place. Plus I've been wanting to go back anyway.

General_Norris, I understand where you're coming from, and I appreciate it, 'cause I needed a bit of a reality check. You've just gotta understand that I'm totally new to this. My other relationships were incredibly long, and started out of high-school friendships. I just don't want to inadvertently come across aloof, 'cause I wouldn't want for her to take it as an insult, y'know? I don't know, I was really high-strung when I wrote the original post, and now I'm just kind of letting myself relax. It was my first date (or half-date... whatever ) so it's natural that I was a bit tense. I'm sure I'll get more chances to smooth things out, and if not, then it's just not meant to be.

Maybe I came across as a well-meaning tool trying to follow all of these dogmatic kind of girl's-expectations-centric kind of rules, but essentially what I'm trying to do is prove that I'm a gentleman in a different way than I'm used to. Usually, I show people I care through huge, openly symbolic actions -- dating is a totally different science where it seems to be all about finding endless meaning in the smallest things. So, it's just a bit of an unnatural approach for me, I guess. In terms of my nerves, I'll try and put things into perspective a little more next time. Haha, I was raised in a pagan, feminist household, so I kind of have a bit of a mystified view of female beauty. I can truly say that from what I saw of her personality I was fascinated, so it's not like there won't be anything to find if I ignore that she's drop-dead gorgeous for awhile.

Evildeadmanwalking, yeah, the more time passes and the more my nerves return to normal, the more I realize that there's not much to stress over. It was a slightly weird situation and I'm inexperienced, and I did well considering my nerves. I'm certain I'll get more chances to break the ice... apparently that ice is just something everyone has to go through in getting to know her. I guess I just had some kind of "date-movie" ideal in my mind. Time to get rid of that and take things as they are.

[noiseredux]

now, thanks to Budsmoka, I'll be doubly certain not to work out so much that my dick starts to shrink. To think how close I was to being another victim to that simple, bone-headed mistake).

live and learn, buddy.

[Original_Name]

mjmjr, I should explain that I came here because alot of the guys here are older and happily married. There's a "been there, done that" wisdom that I wouldn't get from people my age, along with an honesty that doesn't have the optimism that close friends would automatically pile on. Racketboy is a bunch of intelligent, sociable guys with geeky interests, just like I am. It only makes sense that I'd come to my own types for advice on these things. Of course I giggled at myself for coming to a retro-gaming forum. That's fucking hilarious -- but all the same, I felt like I was in good hands.

You're right, it's just about being myself. And frankly, I was myself -- slight initial awkwardness and all. I just needed to be reassured there was nothing to worry about. So thank you guys very much, it means the world to me -- but yes, agreed:

/thread.

[sevin0seven]

^alright enough talking, GO GET HER ORIGINAL_NAME!

*GOOD LUCK* - Star Fox CPU VOICE.

[stickem]

i would say if you can't smash it after a week, move along. after all, isn't that what college is all about? and i resent the above post "video game nerd" stereotype.lol

[o.pwuaioc]

^alright enough talking, GO GET HER ORIGINAL_NAME!

*GOOD LUCK* - Star Fox CPU VOICE.

Is it bad that I heard that in the Star Fox CPU voice even before seeing that I should read it in that voice!?