gtmtnbiker wrote:
2. Collecting knicknacks, junk like that
3. Pageants
4. Extreme body art (piercings, scarification, tattoos, suspension)
5. Extreme sweepstaking
6. Non-casual couponing
7. Lots of pets beyond just 1.
spiritplx wrote:
As I mentioned before, the hobby would not be the determining factor. As with most of these extreme cases, it's possible that the person has somewhat of a disorder. I'm sure that would play into their personality, and *that* would factor into my ultimate decision.
You had asked for examples of hobbies that would turn me off to a person. These are some examples that I came up with off the top of my head. I don't think all of them are extreme.
spiritplx wrote:
2. Who's to determine what "junk" is? Aren't retro games "junk" to the majority of the population?
Yes, you're probably right. In my case, my retro games are in two cabinets of my built-ins and in 3 10-gallon storage containers in my casement. They're not out in the open or on some wall. By knick-knacks, I'm referring to someone who collects plates and displays them on a wall. Or they collect Hummel figures, or video game dolls, etc. They don't appeal to me and as such, I will rule those people out if I were single. It's just one of my selection criteria.
spiritplx wrote:
3. I'm not exactly sure what you mean here, if you are referring to mother's being obsessed with living out their childhood through their children, then see my comment about disorders.
I'm referring to women who participate in pageants personally or through their sons/daughters. I have no interest in having a relationship with someone who has this as their hobby.
spiritplx wrote:
4. I'm sure if a girl has earrings that wouldn't be an issue, right? I guess for scarification/suspension, that seems like it might have some underlying psychological disorder (by the way, I'm not schooled in this field) as well as harm to oneself. Each case would have to be looked at individually. For tattoos, I can't say that this would be an auto "no" for me either.
Simple earrings are fine with me. But you have to realize that there are folks who think scarification, tattoos are fine and is just body art. They think it's normal. Whatever. It doesn't appeal to me and I would not be interested in dating someone with that interest.
spiritplx wrote:
5. and 6. I'm not even sure what these mean.
There are people who enjoy entering sweepstakes/contents. Some of them spend 1-10 hours a day with this hobby. Google "extreme sweepstaking". For couponing, these are people who collect coupons and try to get maximum savings. For instance, they might buy $300 worth of stuff and only spend $30. But if you look at their stuff, they have a lot of free candy and junk food or 120 bottles of shampoo. Yeah, it's a deal but it's not good for you.
spiritplx wrote:
7. What are lots of pets? If it's enough to make their living environment unhealthy, I think that falls into harm of oneself/others.
More than 1 is too much for me.
spiritplx wrote:
I understand what you are getting at. There are some extreme "hobbies" that people can have, but without fully understanding each person's involvement in each of these hobbies, I would not say that I could rule anyone out specifically for hearing about one of their hobbies. I would need context, such as meeting the person and learning about them as a whole, then make a decision. Am I trying to say that all Magic players would be great to date? Hell no. Some of them that I have met have no job, no motivation and are assholes. Does that mean all Magic players automatically fall into this category? I sure hope not.
I think that woman didn't want to continue dating that guy who was a tournament Magic player because she doesn't like the game and she realizes that he probably spends a lot of time at the game because he's a world champion. I mean, you can't be a world champion at MTG by just playing 1-2 hours a month, right? So I think it's perfectly fine that she no longer has interest in him because he plays tournament-level MTG.
spiritplx wrote:
I guess what it boils down to is that I believe it's extremely wrong and short sighted to say "Anyone who enjoys/is X is automatically a bad person" (previous disclaimer about X applies).
I think it's perfectly fine. We're all different people out there with different taste. So if the woman doesn't like MTG players, I'm sure there are some women who idolize MTG players. To add to my list, I would add hunting/trapping/taxidermy as another hobby I'm not interested in. I mean, I wouldn't want to date a woman who wants dead animals mounted on the wall. Yeah, she might be a great person but you can marry/date her, just not me.
) Also my one roommate already took Japanese 1 so I have someone to talk to I guess. haha
