So, some things changed in my life...looking for insight

[s1mplehumar]

Take the focus off yourself. Get involved in local community events focused on service. Give yourself. It's good for the community, it's good for you.

[fvgazi]

The purpose is not to fill the emptiness, but to strengthen your individuality.

I think this statement is key here.

I've been in a similar situation a few years earlier. If you desire healthy relationships, the best way to do that is start with yourself. Once you are confident in yourself - not just meeting girls, but in all other aspects of your life, you will eventually find a person to compliment you.

I've had other hobbies besides gaming that have been pretty important to me. I go to and play a ton of shows with my bands, build and mod things, took up learning to program... and now I have to plan my wedding. The other suggestions that people have made are excellent (sports, exercise, etc). Especially if you are improving yourself and forming new relationships at the same time.


Just remember, there are more women in this world than men!

[Chris Leach]

Guys are jerks! Plain and simple. If he doesnt love you for you he isnt gonna stick around. If things are not going his way in a relationship he is going to move on. So ....

Point in case, Single life is the best life for some. Myself? I was nothing but trouble as I was single. Took a special girl to make me not get into trouble anymore. I took up some college got my degree married my wife and life is where it is now.

You should enjoy being single and work on building relationships around yourself currently. Maybe invite a friend over for a movie...Make a dinner for a friend and see how that goes...but keep it simple...no hard crushes and see where it goes. If it is a sexual relationship they want...hold out...make it special and if its meant to be it will just be...

[MrPopo]

The purpose is not to fill the emptiness, but to strengthen your individuality.

I think this statement is key here.

I'm going to echo this. When I gradated college and moved out to Seattle my girlfriend broke up with me and I had a similar sense of "I'm just half a person now". The best thing you can do is rediscover yourself and what makes you awesome. Rebuild yourself and then you'll be ready for a new relationship.

[avrame]

EDIT: If you are looking for a hobby, take up rock climbing. In addition to being a lot of fun, it is a great way to meet people - including women - and it will keep you occupied both mentally and physically.

No joke, this is key to meeting the right person. Don't go out of your enjoyment zone/element to find someone new, do something that you enjoy, and if you meet a person who enjoys it as well, something is bound to work out.

I had countless friends who are the quiet type of guy, who go out with friends to meet some one new, meet them at a club, only to find out (to their surprise ) that the girl wants to keep going back to the club to party.

Not sure if you have one in your area, but in the Seattle area, we have a program/group called "Events and Adventures". Basically they take everyone out of their 'elements' and put them in a situation were they can bond on common ground. Buddy of mine went to one where they went river rafting. Had a terrible time, met a girl who had a terrible time as well. They spent the whole trip complaining about things they'd rather be doing, and poof, they are still going out (2 months so far).