How to Get over a Breakup?

[hashiriya1]

In your next relationship, just don't get too attached. Keep a distance, but make sure you conceal it well. It took me a couple of tries, but now I can create the illusion of being close without the worries of being in a rut if things go pear-shaped.

[Veno]

I'll give you a story to look down on me so you can feel better.

Be glad you at least got into a relationship. I was really close to a girl, people said it's as if we were going out. She was getting impatient, and thanks to me being a pussy, I was building the courage slowly. Something was keeping me from asking her out, but when I was close to my critical moment, I found out that she likes another guy.

She grew further from me, and I found her sitting on 2 of her guy friend's laps, both of which wasn't the guy she liked. She was a whore, and yet, somehow, we're still friends. But every time I'd hang out with her, I feel like I hate her, but still have some feelings for her.

I'm pretty much over it now, because I'm free to stare at all the ladies I want. I found out again today (coincidence, huh?) she likes yet another guy, but it didn't even faze me at all. Because my way to cope with that horrible feeling of losing a girl you like is to check out sexy women. I take the golden rule to heart. You can look, but you can't touch.

[Original_Name]

I'll give you a story to look down on me so you can feel better.

Be glad you at least got into a relationship. I was really close to a girl, people said it's as if we were going out. She was getting impatient, and thanks to me being a pussy, I was building the courage slowly. Something was keeping me from asking her out, but when I was close to my critical moment, I found out that she likes another guy.

She grew further from me, and I found her sitting on 2 of her guy friend's laps, both of which wasn't the guy she liked. She was a whore, and yet, somehow, we're still friends. But every time I'd hang out with her, I feel like I hate her, but still have some feelings for her.

I'm pretty much over it now, because I'm free to stare at all the ladies I want. I found out again today (coincidence, huh?) she likes yet another guy, but it didn't even faze me at all. Because my way to cope with that horrible feeling of losing a girl you like is to check out sexy women. I take the golden rule to heart. You can look, but you can't touch.

I don't really think her sitting on another guy's lap makes her a whore. I mean, maybe there's something I'm missing here, but doing something as meaningless as sitting on someone's lap is really nothing more than a confidence boost. But then, I've never been a remotely jealous person. I can listen to a girlfriend talk about all the guys (and even girls for one of them) that she wants to and not be upset -- so long as I know that they love me, value me above the others, and stay loyal to me (I hate phrasing it that way, it makes them sound like dogs) it doesn't phase me. I don't know, are you sure it's so bad? What's keeping you from trying your chances with her when she's done with this last guy?

[vlame]

make an okcupid, it did me wonders. LOL

[TheyCallMeTheSwede]

Crank it up, play it over and over again, memorize the words, and start singing along. It works all the time when I feel blue.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=32GsPfUnsRk

[TheyCallMeTheSwede]

This just popped up in my mind and I have to post this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nsG-DHO9Vxs

[timewarpgamer]

It's always tough. Only thing that's ever helped me is investing deeper in hobbies and activities to fill the time (time you would have spent with her). Better still, add a new hobby/activity. Hopefully, your busy schedule results in meeting someone else, and that is far and away the best cure, in my humble opinion.

[Luke]

These threads always crack me up.

We don't know why they broke up, we don't know what kind of anniversary it was, we know nothing about the situation,or even about the guy, but everyone leaps to give advice. Then as always, Inazuma says something about relationships, people respond to him, and four pages later we still no nothing about the break up. Beak could be 12 for all we know.

They could be back together by now.

Now I guess I'll let this thread run its course and I'll give my advice. Talk to your parents and friends. Get some exercise. Don't wallow in self pity.

[pepharytheworm]

These threads always crack me up.

We don't know why they broke up, we don't know what kind of anniversary it was, we know nothing about the situation,or even about the guy, but everyone leaps to give advice. Then as always, Inazuma says something about relationships, people respond to him, and four pages later we still no nothing about the break up. Beak could be 12 for all we know.

They could be back together by now.

Now I guess I'll let this thread run its course and I'll give my advice. Talk to your parents and friends. Get some exercise. Don't wallow in self pity.

So he ask for advice and we shouldn't give it? Of course everyone different in how they handle or should handle situations but that goes for any advice you give. I for one won't ask him for more personal details, and only gave advice that helped me.

[burningmice]

Time heals everything.
My what would have been 2 year anniversary with my ex-girlfriend was yesterday. Seemed like she didn't even remember the date.

Took me a really long time to get over her, but I think falling for someone else really helped.