Expanding your social network is probably the best thing you can do if you can find a way to do it, I know this is easier said than done at times as people tend to lose touch with each other when married/in relationships etc. Good luck with eharmony, these things can work so are certainly worth trying. I actually tried a couple of dating sites myself and have had a good few dates with some interesting women from them, nobody that appealed to me as a potential girlfriend but I did make a couple of friends so at least it's helped me grow that social network which has got me invited out a few times. I'm located in the UK and set up a profile on one site (not as a paid member so can't read messages), and I get messages everyday from American girls?? Whats going on with that? It doesn't seem worth paying to read the messages as I won't be meeting up with any of them, but do American girls like the idea of bagging a Brit what with our strange accents? If so, maybe I should move over there I'm sure you already know this, but self confidence is the absolute key to attracting women. Also I think appearance is important, but only in the sense that women care more about your 'look' than your 'looks'. After the split I thought I'd have some fun and created a new style for myself, including some expensive clothes, leather jacket, black trenchcoat, nice shoes and boots (surprisingly very important to women!) and a fashionable 'Beckham-esque' hair cut at a salon. Wow did that make a big difference, I didn't expect it but I can tell you that women really notice when you make an effort to take care of yourself. Now I've never considered myself to be particularly good looking (and probably neither has anybody else), but since I did this I've had girls 'checking me out' when I walk into a room, complimenting me and even telling me they find me physically attractive - that sure as hell never used to happen before! I have basically made myself stand out, but you do need a lot of confidence and self assurance to carry this off as a lot of girls are looking for someone who seems 'cool'. For example, if you are very self conscious and shy (as I used to be and still am to a certain extent) and usually just like to blend into the crowd - just think how uncomfortable you would be when attractive girls are looking at you expecting you to be this confident and dominant guy and you can't even hold eye contact and smile let alone actually speak to them.
So probably the best thing to do is to look at what as happened as an opportunity to improve yourself, grow as a person, have some fun and become happier and more self assured than you ever were before. Do this and the girls will flock to you
