What Made you Smile/What Ticked you off Today?

[Stark]

Traditional southern families are not ones you go against lightly. So going ahead and doing it is not an option. It is also out of respect for my little brother wedding. If we got engaged a couple weeks before it would take some of the magic out of the engagement and some of it out of the wedding.

I don't see why you can't just buy the house and tell everyone after you get engaged, sometime after the wedding.

Also houses aren't bought it one day. If you start the buying process you most likely won't own it until after their wedding. Just a thought.

[cookie monster]

Go to the familys and explain to them that other people are looking at the home you want and you don't want to lose it since you had planned on asking for your girls hand on the day you move since most the family will be there to witness the joyous event. Ask them if they will concede this once for you. If that don't work get the grandparents on your side.

[elmagicochrisg]

Ticked - We cannot buy a house until we are atleast engaged, per our families. We were asked to not get engaged until after my little brothers wedding in three weeks. The houses could be sold by then...

That's just retarded. If the house is available now, if that's the one you want, and if you can afford it, then make the arrangements before someone else does...

Sometimes you have to be fast, Billy...

[Forlorn Drifter]

What I suggest on the house- buy it, but continue to live seperately until everybdoy's okay with it. I don't really see any reason for either family to have that problem. I've been around some families that are much more rigid than mine, and I've been to a shotgun wedding. But I seriously wouldn't think there would be a problem.

[fastbilly1]

Maybe yall dont understand what it means when you go against a traditional southern family. If you go against them, you will be kicked out. Thats it. Gone. There is rarely leniency on this, as odd as it sounds. The grandparents would have been rigidly in agreement with this but I only have one left and she is not doing good, and the she only has one left because the others were killed by a drunk driver last year.

There are a couple other issues here that I did not post, like the fact that she lives in another state and that is where the house is. And I cannot transfer at work until August at the soonest - the goal was to buy the house and have her move into it now and I would move up there as soon as I can. There are more that I cant really post publicly. If we dont get the house it is simply not the one for us.

[dsheinem]

Maybe yall dont understand what it means when you go against a traditional southern family. If you go against them, you will be kicked out. Thats it. Gone. There is rarely leniency on this, as odd as it sounds. The grandparents would have been rigidly in agreement with this but I only have one left and she is not doing good, and the she only has one left because the others were killed by a drunk driver last year.

There are a couple other issues here that I did not post, like the fact that she lives in another state and that is where the house is. And I cannot transfer at work until August at the soonest - the goal was to buy the house and have her move into it now and I would move up there as soon as I can. There are more that I cant really post publicly. If we dont get the house it is simply not the one for us.

I guess the question we are really asking is how would they know you "went against them" unless you said something? They don't need to ever know when you actually purchased the house and/or got engaged, do they? Just don't wear the ring to the wedding...

[elmagicochrisg]

I guess the question we are really asking is how would they know you "went against them" unless you said something? They don't need to ever know when you actually purchased the house and/or got engaged, do they? Just don't wear the ring to the wedding...

That's a possibility. But morally questionable.

Can't you just explain the situation to them? Maybe show them pictures of the house. Explain how this is important to the both of you. Surely you can reason with them...

Or maybe explain the situation to the sellers. Three weeks is not that long. You can make up your mind now, and sign the papers later...

[sabrage]

It's morally questionable to lord other people's happiness over your head under threat of exile. -.-

[elmagicochrisg]

It's morally questionable to lord other people's happiness over your head under threat of exile. -.-

Touché...

[Mephikun]

This is for last night:

Smile: Went to an awesome concert with Seventh Day Slumber, Manic Drive, and Ilia. Got a free signed SDS T-Shirt and Poster, as well as two of their CDs. Also got signed Manic Drive and Ilia CDs. Had an awesome time.

Frown: I forgot to get my Seventh Day Slumber CDs signed...