What Made you Smile/What Ticked you off Today?

[Luke]

Rough week for family and friends.

My friend Angela's (broke up, got back together with my pal Uncle Andy/the red head in my party pictures) Grandmother has joined the church triumphant, aka, kicked the bucket. I'm not sure how someone in their 70's can get ovarian cancer, but that's what she had. Then, while in the hospital, Angela's Grandmother suffered a mean stroke. Died the next day. Cancer is an asshole.

I'm not supposed to know about it, but my Father in law's cancer is back, just months after a trip to the mayo Clinic.

I spoke with my brother in law (who called to see if he and his wife could stay over for a few nights) and he said that his Grandmother spilled the beans, but not to say anything. Apparently my Father in law is going under some experimental treatment at Duke, but I'm not exactly sure what's going on since it's all hush hush.

Previously my FILaw didn't mention he ha cancer for at least six months after he was diagnosed since he didn't want anyone to worry.

Know what makes me worry? Not knowing stuff. Life is life, facts are facts, I'd rather know what's up than not know what's going down. I respect his privilege to keep things to himself, but I do think it would be better for the family if everyone knew the skinny.

Of course this has made my wife a bit of a wreck, mostly physically. Can't sleep, her neck is aching, as is her noggin. I told her to call her Father and talk it out, but she won't as she thinks she be ratting out her G-Ma and Lil Bro.

Easy for me, tough for her to bring it out in the open. But sheesh, we're talking about cancer here. If my Sister told me that my Mother's cancer was back, right as rain I would hang up and call my Mother immediately. We all treat these things differently, but some answers would relieve some serious stress.

[prfsnl_gmr]

I'm sorry to hear that, Luke. I will be keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers, and I hope that things start looking up soon.

[Luke]

I'm sorry to hear that, Luke. I will be keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers, and I hope that things start looking up soon.

Thanks your air-ness.

Perhaps pray for her Father to have a bit of clairvoyance on how withholding information on his health could hurt his family in the long run.

[jp1]

Rough week for family and friends.

My friend Angela's (broke up, got back together with my pal Uncle Andy/the red head in my party pictures) Grandmother has joined the church triumphant, aka, kicked the bucket. I'm not sure how someone in their 70's can get ovarian cancer, but that's what she had. Then, while in the hospital, Angela's Grandmother suffered a mean stroke. Died the next day. Cancer is an asshole.

I'm not supposed to know about it, but my Father in law's cancer is back, just months after a trip to the mayo Clinic.

I spoke with my brother in law (who called to see if he and his wife could stay over for a few nights) and he said that his Grandmother spilled the beans, but not to say anything. Apparently my Father in law is going under some experimental treatment at Duke, but I'm not exactly sure what's going on since it's all hush hush.

Previously my FILaw didn't mention he ha cancer for at least six months after he was diagnosed since he didn't want anyone to worry.

Know what makes me worry? Not knowing stuff. Life is life, facts are facts, I'd rather know what's up than not know what's going down. I respect his privilege to keep things to himself, but I do think it would be better for the family if everyone knew the skinny.

Of course this has made my wife a bit of a wreck, mostly physically. Can't sleep, her neck is aching, as is her noggin. I told her to call her Father and talk it out, but she won't as she thinks she be ratting out her G-Ma and Lil Bro.

Easy for me, tough for her to bring it out in the open. But sheesh, we're talking about cancer here. If my Sister told me that my Mother's cancer was back, right as rain I would hang up and call my Mother immediately. We all treat these things differently, but some answers would relieve some serious stress.

Sorry man, that is a tough situation. I wish the best for all of you. Life is good but sometimes it really gives a kick in the ass, doesn't it? I hope you and your wife can find some peace with the situation and your Father in-law makes a speedy recovery. I know there are a lot of atheist on the boards, so I hope it doesn't offend, but I'll keep you all in my prayers. Best of luck.

[Luke]

Thanks guys, and prayer is more than welcome.

Pray to the Gods of metal if you'd like. I'm not choosey.

[jp1]

Perhaps pray for her Father to have a bit of clairvoyance on how withholding information on his health could hurt his family in the long run.

I mean to say this with nothing but positive intent, so please keep that in mind.

I think that has got to be one of the hardest personal decisions a person can make. Although, I'm inclined to agree with you that the family deserves to know...I have to wonder how hard it might be to think that out rationally when you are dealing with the prospects of cancer and it's ramifications on you and your loved ones. In short, I hope you are willing to cut him a break on that one.

That said, it is your family and what the hell do I know about the circumstances? So, please take my 2 cents as nothing more than 2 cents. I just wanted to add an outside perspective that may not be considered with lots of feelings involved. If I'm wrong, I'm wrong, and I apologize.

Again, my deepest sympathy goes out to you, your wife, and her dad and family. I haven't personally dealt with cancer, but it has had an enormous impact on my wife and her family, and indirectly (because of her situation) on me. So, while my personal experience is impeded, I am acutely aware of the anguish that your wife must be going through. As such, it would be in my nature to be a bit upset with the person responsible for making things more difficult as well, if the shoes were on my feet.

[Forlorn Drifter]

Sorry to hear all of that Luke.

I was all excited to get up here to college, and then I realized that I don't know anybody here, and my roommates are always out somewhere. So its kinda lonely so far, something usually pops up once a day or so though.

[dsheinem]

Sorry to hear all of that Luke.

I was all excited to get up here to college, and then I realized that I don't know anybody here, and my roommates are always out somewhere. So its kinda lonely so far, something usually pops up once a day or so though.

where are your roommates going? tag along, maybe...

[Hobie-wan]

IMHO you want to hang out with people other than your roommate a fair amount of the time anyway. You're in class with people, you make friends like you did in regular school. The campus will have activities, seek those out.

[Forlorn Drifter]

Sorry to hear all of that Luke.

I was all excited to get up here to college, and then I realized that I don't know anybody here, and my roommates are always out somewhere. So its kinda lonely so far, something usually pops up once a day or so though.

where are your roommates going? tag along, maybe...

Ones out of town, one's doing rush stuff, and one is just out a lot with activities.

IMHO you want to hang out with people other than your roommate a fair amount of the time anyway. You're in class with people, you make friends like you did in regular school. The campus will have activities, seek those out.

That's the plan, but school hasn't started yet. There's stuff going on, but I usually don't know how to get to it.