Random Thoughts Thread

[Ziggy]

Look at this pic:



Pretend for a second that's your perspective. Could you picture if you witnessed that boulder rolling down?

[Forlorn Drifter]

And let's be clear, no on here is actually qualified to diagnose ANYTHING. But numerous members have been commenting over the years that you seem like you would benefit from professional health. And that doesn't necessarily mean drugs; that's up for a medical professional to figure out. Maybe you just need a proper focus and guidance for getting your mental state in order. If your real life friends have never mentioned anything I'd guess it's because they're uncaring insensitive assholes (aka, teenage males). So just go do it already. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Nothing to lose? The respect of my family and those around me would go down the drain, and any chance with any girl who ever finds out that I had to be treated for whatever it is. And my friends don't mention anything because they don't really see me down, because letting them know how I am makes me look like a pussy in front of them, and I'm not letting that happen.

[GSZX1337]

I finished reading Splinter of the Mind's Eye last night. Though it has a considerable amount of inconsistencies with the films (even with the first one) it's still a fun read. Plenty of action, interesting characters, and outlandish creatures. I do have issues with the ending, but they're not large enough to greatly detract from my enjoyment of the story. Perhaps the graphic novel portrays the ending more believably.

[flex wood]

Forlorn get your test levels checked.

[Hobie-wan]

Nothing to lose? The respect of my family and those around me would go down the drain, and any chance with any girl who ever finds out that I had to be treated for whatever it is. And my friends don't mention anything because they don't really see me down, because letting them know how I am makes me look like a pussy in front of them, and I'm not letting that happen.

I gave up on trying to give you helpful advice, but for fucking fuck's sake. If you act like 25% of the mopey sack of shit you portray yourself as on the forum most of the time, the people around you right now have no respect for you and think you're a fucking wuss. Sitting around and not doing anything to improve the situation is the real chickenshit decision. Going out and seeking help so you can help yourself is the brave thing to do.

At the rate you're going, you're going to get some random one night stand pregnant after a night at moping at a bar after a hard day at a shitty dead end job, marry her because it's the 'right thing to do', continue to be miserable with a family you don't really like, and maybe blow your brains out before you're 40. That's a shitty existence I don't wish on anyone.

Get some goddamn help already

[Forlorn Drifter]

Getting help implies one does not have the ability do it themselves. And if I can't deal with my emotional issues, I am weak. If we are to follow the rules of nature, I am then to let be die. That would be the point, right?

@flex
I'm an 18 year old boy, my test levels are fine.

[Hobie-wan]

Getting help implies one does not have the ability do it themselves. And if I can't deal with my emotional issues, I am weak. If we are to follow the rules of nature, I am then to let be die. That would be the point, right?

Well, then what the fuck are you going to school for? That's someone helping you. Why are you living at home? That's someone helping you. Why are you buying food and clothes from a store? That's someone helping you.

You should be living in the sticks killing cougars with your bare hands and wearing their skins.

[noiseredux]

Getting help implies one does not have the ability do it themselves. And if I can't deal with my emotional issues, I am weak. If we are to follow the rules of nature, I am then to let be die. That would be the point, right?

Forlorn, I've never felt compelled to reach out to you until this very comment. Why do you think it's necessary that someone handle everything on their own? There's no shame in getting help. Nobody expects anybody to be Superman dood. Everybody in the world has relied on somebody for something at some point. No shame in the game.

[Ack]

And let's be clear, no on here is actually qualified to diagnose ANYTHING. But numerous members have been commenting over the years that you seem like you would benefit from professional health. And that doesn't necessarily mean drugs; that's up for a medical professional to figure out. Maybe you just need a proper focus and guidance for getting your mental state in order. If your real life friends have never mentioned anything I'd guess it's because they're uncaring insensitive assholes (aka, teenage males). So just go do it already. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Nothing to lose? The respect of my family and those around me would go down the drain, and any chance with any girl who ever finds out that I had to be treated for whatever it is. And my friends don't mention anything because they don't really see me down, because letting them know how I am makes me look like a pussy in front of them, and I'm not letting that happen.

Hahahaha, oh, that's a bunch of bullshit. I put off going to counseling for years out of fear of loss of the respect of others and thinking they would feed me a bunch of mind altering drugs that would make me not me. And you know what? It was a mistake to have held out as long as I did.

I finally decided to seek help when my father flat out asked me to. I went to counseling and was prescribed anti-anxiety medication, and instead of losing the respect of my family and peers, I instead gained confidence and found myself emotionally stable enough to actually connect with many of them again. And you know what? The counseling and the medication showed me what it was like to not live under a perpetual cloud of crippling self-doubt and reminded me of all the things I had done and accomplished. I now have a much better relationship with my family, I no longer struggle when talking to women, and I the ability to handle myself and my responsibilities much more than I ever could in the past. There are things I wish I was better at, yes, but I find improving myself much easier than I used to, and I see the future in a much brighter light.

Now here's the deal: you think you'll be losing respect, but the truth is, you're losing it by coming up with excuses. It is not weak to admit you may have a problem and then go be responsible enough to try and fix it, even if it requires help from outside sources. It is weak to pretend like nothing is wrong. A real man is responsible for himself, and if he has a problem, he gets it handled and carries on, even if it requires outside help. If you want to know who gets "let be die," it's the guys who don't seek help and let their problems do them in, because they eventually reach a point where they can't handle it anymore. I had a friend who didn't seek help and reached that point. He's not around anymore. He took a pistol and used it to paint his brains all over a wall one night nearly 9 years ago. I hadn't talked to him in a long time, and even if I had, I doubt in my mindset then I would have been able to help him at all, but damned if he, his pregnant girlfriend, and his whole family didn't deserve better than that.

And hell, for all you know you'll get in there and the doc will say "You're ok" and you can then come back and tell us he said so, and we'll all shut up and see you as 18 year old man, not a boy.

[Forlorn Drifter]

Getting help implies one does not have the ability do it themselves. And if I can't deal with my emotional issues, I am weak. If we are to follow the rules of nature, I am then to let be die. That would be the point, right?

Forlorn, I've never felt compelled to reach out to you until this very comment. Why do you think it's necessary that someone handle everything on their own? There's no shame in getting help. Nobody expects anybody to be Superman dood. Everybody in the world has relied on somebody for something at some point. No shame in the game.

I don't know why I think that, but I always have. Its not something I apply to everyone either, just myself. I shouldn't need the help. I've been told my whole life I'm smart, strong, and imposing, so there is absolutely no reason I shouldn't be able to do everything for myself. In fact, I should be doing much, much more for other people than I already do, but I'm too damn selfish and shallow to do anything for anyone else.

@Ack
You might be right there, but I stand by it that I am weak if I take help for emotions. I'm a male, I should have had control of my emotions years ago, and I don't, and thus I am weak. And if I do go to the doctor and he tells me I'm ok, then what does that say? I'm just a sad, downer piece of shit that deserves the way he treats himself.