Retrodude wrote:Religious people shouldn't care how you're dressed. To their minds, as long as you show up, it shouldn't matter what you look like, no?
Shouldn't, but often do. It's a southern thing, and it applies a little extra heavily in Texas- you dress up for Church. No discussion about it otherwise, as many see it.
My view is I have to dress up pretty much every other day of the week, I get to dress down on Sunday, luckily both of my Churches are cool with that. At one the pastor is often wearing a button down and jeans. And while I may not be as far south as I use to be, I am still well below the beltline.
This isn't just directed at Indecks, but why would anyone hate to look nice and classy? It is unfortunate, but it is certainly human nature to judge someone by their looks.
Of course I prefer to dress formally as I'm more comfortable that way and I understand that some may be more comfortable in casual clothes now, but step out of your comfort zone for once. Dressing up may grow on you. It also sounds like some of you guys feel forced to suit up; being forced to do anything isn't fun. Suit up one day for the hell of it and wear a suit and tie that you actually like. See if you aren't treated differently.
...and if you aren't particularly concerned with impressing people?
I've never felt I was treated poorly or anything when wearing more casual attire. I'm a bit of a hermit anyway, but when I'm out and about I dress what feels comfortable to me.
Besides, it's always cool to have a stranger walk up and go "Hey nice Bolt Thrower* shirt!" Sometimes it can result in meeting cool people. Heck it's how I met the last guitarist I jammed with, and I still talk to him on occasion even though he moved to Colorado.
I'm not necessarily opposed to "looking sharp" or whatever, but one thing with nicer, more formal clothing is that it's often expensive and has to be specially cared for.
Luke wrote:It also sounds like some of you guys feel forced to suit up; being forced to do anything isn't fun. Suit up one day for the hell of it and wear a suit and tie that you actually like. See if you aren't treated differently.
Unless I'm at a formal event, I tend to be mistrustful of people dressed in nice suits. They are usually trying to sell me something, take something from me, tell me how things are going to be, etc. tbh I've used this to my advantage from time to time when it makes sense to exercise the "appearance of authority," but tend to do so very sparingly as I find respect, authority, and appreciation come more from what I can say to someone than what I can wear around them.
That said, never take fashion advice from a professor.
I hear ya Luke, but I actually have to wear slacks/button ups at work 5 days a week. To me that's my prison outfit, and it makes me think of being uncomfortable. (and they are)
Its not about not wanting to go out looking classy for me, and AQ kinda got my take on it. I dont care about impressing people**. Granted if they allowed tshirts and jeans at work every day I wouldn't show up in a cannibal corpse shirt and ripped jeans or anything, but I'd rather be comfortable doing my job than in a button up shirts and slacks.
Thankfully they are usually pretty good about letting me wear button-tees, so there's at least that. Still not a t-shirt, but its better than a starched long sleeve.
**I figured this out my Junior year in high school. For years I was concerned with wearing nice clothes to look nice, or concerned whether or not people would talk to me, and it meant something to me to be in the 'cool crowd' (I never was, lol). But then it dawned on me "Waitaminnit - I don't care about ANY of these people! In two years I'll likely never see them again!"
I see the importance of a first impression for a job or what have you, but for people I don't know, I really don't care if they judge me for wearing a shirt that my wife got me with two meatball subs and the phrase "UTAH, GET ME TWO" on it. I don't know them so I couldn't possibly care less what they think of me. And people who are close to me, they already know that if they complain about my Batman shirt, it will get a "so?" from me, lol.
I don't dress formally to impress anyone but myself (narcissism anyone?). I like to look nice and what I wear is an extension of my inner self confidence. Not saying dressing nicely offers you immediate respect, but people do treat you differently based on your attire.
And yes, never take fashion advice from a professor.
I totally get where Indeck's is coming from. There was a time where I had to wear a Polo shirt and khakis. I am not a fan of dressing up like I'm going to play golf. Polo shirts are the business-slouch of clothing.
I know it's not just me, as what I wear changes how I feel. Jeans and a t shirt? I know I'll be bumming it around the house with a game controller in my hand and a beer nearby. Shorts? Sounds like I'll be mowing the lawn. Pressed shirt, suit and tie? I'm getting s#it done and looking good while doing it. Jeans and a Hockey Sweater*? GAME TIME!
Keep in mind I coordinate my boxer shorts and socks with the color of my tie, and also with holidays, so I go a tad overboard.
*For me there aren't many sexier sights than seeing a petite girl wearing nothing but a hockey sweater. I could probably find some pictures of ex's doing just that.
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Not gonna lie - I look like poo most days. I live on a farm and take care of a baby. I get filthy, so I generally just wear jeans or shorts and t-shirts. Right now I'm wearing a shirt with a fish and a deer on it. How very Maine of me.
I do try to class it up a bit when I go out. Generally "nice" jeans and a polo.
I will say this though - my last job had a very informal dress code, but I chose to wear ties most every day.
I prefer to go with jeans and a t shirt most days, but lately, I actually have found a style I like that looks good on me: khaki pants, a Hawaiian shirt and a fedora. Which style I go with when I go out depends on how I feel. Sometimes I do want to impress people, but usually I don't care.
I'm not a glitch, I just have pixlexia.
Raiiban wrote:That's a moral dilemma. Capitalism has no morals.
Please tell me you are trolling. If not, burn the fedora, now. Even if we aren't "friend" friends, I still can not let an e-buddy wear a fedora. Friends don't let friends wear fedoras.
