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[RyaNtheSlayA]

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[Luke]

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You just made my day, and it is barely after 7am.

[Opa Opa]

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[Luke]

I feel at least I should give some decent advice, as this guy kind of poured his heart out on an internet forum.

I loved high school; just about every minute of it. Well, there was a two month stint where I was grounded that wasn't all that fun, but I got what I deserved for getting caught being paid in money and beer to do other kids homework. Back on track, duder, you have to settle down a bit and think about what's really important at this stage of your life. If high school courses are fairly easy for you to and you can phone in your work, sure chase some chicks. But women are going to be more impressed by your future success and personality more than anything else.

Maybe the best advice I can give you is to be yourself. If a girl doesn't like you, don't take it personally and mope as it's going to happen a lot. We're really, super super lucky as guys because most women judge us on our personality and drive. Of course there are exceptions, but I'd also add that women do mature quicker than men. Case in point, I still play Nintendo.

If you put yourself out on the market and try to be someone you're not, you're only going to hurt your reputation. Plus most women pick up on when guys don't really care who does and doesn't like them. Trust me, Jonah Hill isn't get poon left and right because he's trying to be someone he isn't and cares what others think of him.

And as most guys will tell you, you always get hit on when you're not trying. Well....That and after you get married. Good Luck!

[Original_Name]

I understand, man. Even though I'm often told I'm an attractive, I'm halfway through my college career and still have internal doubts about how appealing I am to the types of girls I'm interested in. I'm an intellectual-type, straight-edge, vegetarian, have deeply-held convictions without being religious, am obsessed with bringing out the best in people, and do everything in my power to be a gentleman WHILE being extremely high-energy, having a raunchy and awkward sense of humor, having a group of friends that look like they came out of a cartoon gang, and loving outsider art from punk to video games to Lord knows what else. This kind of makes it difficult for girls to settle in, since many of my traits are a bit contradictory. I have to go for girls who're halfway between cultured, conscientious, and eccentric. There's not really a culture for these types of things, unless you're in the Nation of Ulysses fan club or something, so usually I'm faced with an awkward clash somewhere or another (usually with them misinterpreting my personal views as being judgments on them). The fact that I'm pursuing a career in the ever-so-profitable field of education doesn't exactly help things.

And lo and behold, now I'm in a relationship with the most gorgeous girl I've ever met, and things may actually be going too well. I'm having to be careful to make sure things don't move too fast. So take this two ways -- it never gets easy, but opportunities will come your way even if you don't curtail your personality in order to attract the young lady of your dreams. My advice would be to make sure that you refine your personality to make sure that your kindness comes out in everything you do, get yourself in spectacular health (work out. It's easy and it works), do your best to be exciting and adventurous within your comfort limits, and ensure that your honesty and work-ethic are on full display. Once you've established those traits, make them second nature and you can be rest-assured that any shortcomings in relationships are on the shoulders of your partner rather than yourself -- it's just a matter of patience from there. Opportunities will come your way, no matter how unsure you may feel now -- I think I'm a testament to that; a few weeks ago I was on these boards asking for dating advice.

[nightrnr]

And then there are those of us who have completely given up on the prospect.

I've come to terms with the harsh reality that I'm a hopeless case.
But life goes on, and it's still worth it.
You make the best of things and enjoy the freedom of being single. It's a somewhat lonely way of life (although you still have family and/or friends), but not so terrible once you stop caring about what society expects of you (or what you expect from society).

My post probably comes off as a bit of a downer, but I sincerely doubt that I'm the only one who ends up feeling like this. I mean, how else are you supposed to be when you find yourself in your 30's without any sign that you will ever be in a relationship.

But even if there was some kind of hope for the future, I really just see it as a weight; it's much better if I just don't worry about it.
I tell myself "there are other things in life to enjoy and focus on, find them".

[Key-Glyph]

True story, I clicked on this post because the title made me hear the Dance Dance Revolution guy in my head yelling "OK! HERE we GO!"

http://www.racketboy.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=15&t=14846&hilit=advice

I knew exactly which thread this was without even clicking on it and laughed for a straight minute.

And lo and behold, now I'm in a relationship with the most gorgeous girl I've ever met

How sweet! I read your original thread and this is nice news.

The Last Horseman: I felt the same as you in high school (I didn't date until college). All I can say is that back then, I was never convinced that I wasn't going to end up alone. Nothing any of my friends or family said shook the feeling that other people would always be preferred as partners over me, even if the advice-givers themselves had once been in my situation. I'm happily married and on the other side now -- I'm that person, the one wanting to tell you you'll be fine, that college is a different boat, that it worked out for me, and all that. And it's true. But I don't know if it can actually help you feel any better.

Regardless of how things turn out -- whether you have relationships, get married, etcetera -- what I can say is that as I approached adulthood I became more content with my life in all of its forms. The intensity and angst cool off as you grow, and you'll find it'll be easier to be happier with yourself. When I go back and read certain poems I wrote in high school I say to myself, "My God! I actually felt these feelings?! Thank heavens I'm not being eaten alive by this stuff anymore." That's something to take comfort in.

[The Last Horseman]

Thanks guys, really. Don't get the idea though, I haven't lost hope or anything.

And when it comes to stuff I write (I attempt to write songs), it ends up sounding like a Hank III styled getting high and killin' people type of music. I'm not crazy and intending to do anything, thats just how it ends up sounding.

[ninjainspandex]

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