Such a strange... date?

[stickem]

^Belmont.

Haha, and how do you mean "weird from a college girl"? Clearly it was weird, but what about college-age makes it particularly weird?

without trying to offend anybody, i guess i was just used to girls being "aggresive" when i was in college. that's all. but good luck.

[Original_Name]

^Haha, I don't think that would offend anyone man, don't sweat it.

Belmont's kind of weird... it's a private Baptist University, so most of the kids there are really conservative churchy types, then the second-largest group are the hipsters with a silver spoon in their mouths, then you have a relatively small group that's there because they worked their asses off to get the scholarships. This girl falls into the latter group (as do I), and these people tend to be really eccentric goody-goods who are there for the education instead of the Baptist stuff. The middle group would be pretty heavy on the kinds of girls you're talking about, but this girl (thankfully) isn't.

[Evildeadmanwalking77]

Just give it time dude. It sounds promising regardless of you saying it was a half good date. Seems like she wants to take it slow and that's a good thing. Good Luck man! I think it will all be fine!

[Luke]

^Haha, I don't think that would offend anyone man, don't sweat it.

Belmont's kind of weird... it's a private Baptist University, so most of the kids there are really conservative churchy types, then the second-largest group are the hipsters with a silver spoon in their mouths, then you have a relatively small group that's there because they worked their asses off to get the scholarships. This girl falls into the latter group (as do I), and these people tend to be really eccentric goody-goods who are there for the education instead of the Baptist stuff. The middle group would be pretty heavy on the kinds of girls you're talking about, but this girl (thankfully) isn't.

Expect a PM or a reply later today from me, if it is worth your time. I'm in meeting most of the day, but I seriously think I have some great insight for you from what you have said.

Until then, "Game on!".

[Erik_Twice]

Then, completely randomly, she tells me I'm really funny, asks for my number, and says that we should "hang out" and grab sushi sometime... on Facebook. So... I still don't know exactly how to classify the encounter.

There was nothing random about it, you don't understand why that happened but it was not random.

Classification is for others, as long as you know where you stand in relation to her you will do fine. In fact, I would argue that such classification will impose mental roadblocks on you so don't.

You actually talk about this on a later post, you say something akin to "I had no way of knowing if it was a date or just meeting!". Well, that's a problem, you should always know. And not in the "what do I tell to my friends" sense but in the how it matters one.

Don't care. It doesn't matter. What matters is how you both feel, the label is irrelevant.

As in, I was constantly having to think up new things to talk about (which was incredibly difficult since I was so nervous sitting across from such a drop-dead gorgeous young woman), kind of running to dead-ends in all directions.

Don't be nervous then, she is just a woman.

If you go and put her on a pedestal you won't get anywhere. Be more demanding, man.

She picked up her own check before I could say otherwise, which kind of disheartened me... except I'm not sure if it should.

Why should you pay for her? What did she do to deserve it? Giving stuff to women just because they are women is not just pretty wrong but won't get you anywhere!

Do I wait a couple days, call her, and strike up a chance to go somewhere nicer,

Somewhere nicer? Aren't you nice enough? Focus on people not on places!

A couple days seems ok. Just call her and meet again.


And no, don't ask for "a date". Just ask her to meet you. No need to get crappy social perceptions here, they are an useless chore that will only make any relationship worse.

Hope it helps.

[fvgazi]

If you guys decide to go on another date or hang out, maybe try doing a new activity together? Getting food is great and all, but if you both experience something new you're more likely to build a stronger bond whether you stay friends or take it further from there.

I agree with everyone who says don't sweat it. If you try to over analyze everything she did during that dinner conversation then it will drive you insane and you'll be super nervous on your next date.

I know you've been brought up a few points about how shy she is. I'm not sure saying stuff like "I want to bring you out of your shell" would go over well. I was pretty shy in college and I always hated when people made a point to bring it up (she could be different though). She will most likely grow confident and comfortable the more you are together.

Good luck!

[pepharytheworm]

All I have to say is make your intentions clear, because once you go friend mode it's hard to go back. Men can go from friend mode to relationship easy, but for a lot of women it seems diffcult.

[sevin0seven]

It was a date; you just don't know it yet. It will be clear when you start seeing her more often.

I hope so, man! Even if it was just a half-date-thing, I'm beyond flattered, even if it doesn't go anywhere. This girl is just heart-breakingly gorgeous, like, I can't even begin to explain it. She's Lao, too, which just brings it to a whole 'nother level for me.

it sounds to me she really likes you. she's speechless (like you) but still takes your number first (that's a sign). just need more time and meet-ups to get to know each other more. once that happen she'll let you in more into her personality and Lao tradition...and if there is really something going on with you two.

[prfsnl_gmr]

This sounds like the first date with my wife. Don't play any games and don't spend too much time overanlayzing things. If you enjoy each other's company as much as I suspect, then you two will be spending a lot more time together without much effort.

[noiseredux]

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