AppleQueso wrote:That's an incredibly unreasonable promise to ask someone to make anyways.
"Don't do this life affirming thing until after this arbitrary time frame has passed."
It's ridiculously unfair to you, and frankly the way these sorts of things work is that you'll reach that "having a job for a few years" mark and get told that you should wait longer still, because you shouldn't make drastic life changes until other people in your life are ready to accept them or something I guess.
...and really, what it boils down to is that you're an adult and that ultimately these sorts of decisions aren't the kinds of decisions that parents get to make for you, especially when it's a question of living a life that's as honest, authentic, and as true to yourself as possible.
How that helps you navigate that conversation though... I don't know. I've been lucky in that my entire family has been 100% supportive of my transition, so that's not an issue I've had to face.
General advice for this sort of thing though that I hear: think of the worst case scenario that could realistically go down (emphasis on realistic, don't want to work yourself up over highly unlikely or impossible outcomes after all), and prepare yourself for that.
Transition is really, really tough. It's the toughest thing I've ever dealt with in my entire life. Supportive family means *so* much when you're going through something this big, and I hope your parents recognize this and show you the love and support you deserve.
I've known too many people who didn't get that.
I think that's exactly what I'm going to tell them. I really hope they'll take it as well as your parents did. Especially my dad and stepmom. :/
Ack wrote:I'm sorry, I'm not entirely sure I understand what you mean. I thought your parents already knew. Does HRT mean the hormone treatment you started? Because from everything you wrote, it's been hugely beneficial for you. You seem much happier and more confident.
I guess I should have elaborated on that - here's how it has happened: My mom has known about this since late high school for me, but there was a period of about three years where I was denying it (and I was pretty miserable overall), so she just thought it went away. Only a few months ago I told her I was dealing with it again, and now when she brings it up, she asks stuff like "how do you know that won't happen again? You should just wait". So she and my stepdad know, and have sorta both had that same reaction. My dad... well, my dad found out from her, even when I told her not to say anything to him. Let's just say... he didn't take it as well.
AppleQueso wrote:HRT is friggin' awesum btw
It's like finally tuning an instrument that you've only ever heard out-of-tune. Everything is clearer, more harmonious, and you genuinely feel like yourself. Sometimes for the first time in your life.
That's probably a weird metaphor, but that's a perfect description of how it worked for me at least.
^This! Here's how I would decribe being Pre-HRT: You know how you sorta zone out from everything when you're really tired? Like, you can still react to things, and even snap into a period of seeming lucidity if need be, but you return to that lesser state pretty quickly? It's sorta like that, but it just. doesn't. stop. As for being on HRT, I could describe the first time I took it as what your health bar does when you collect enough fruit in a level of Yoshi's Story! XD
But seriously, I feel like now is the first time in my life where I can be happy for no reason at all. Where I can stand to look at myself and not feel deeply ashamed. I love this feeling, and I never want to let go of it. ^_^
- had to work super late monday night - wednesday night(basically 10-12 shifts) because we're technically short 3 guys(a part-timer they'd just hired decided never to show up again after 2 weeks), and my manager decided not to show up wednesday night(thankfully the assistant manager for the grocery crew was there) so I ended up working until 9:45 which shouldn't of happened had he taken a lot of crap off the order
- getting overtime pay because of it which is nice, and might be following the assistant manger when he leaves to take over another store's grocery team(which would be great because the nights he does the orders they actually seem right and I'd rather work for him when he does go)
