Post a picture of yourself...no not a damn mug

[Luke]

Yo Luke, I'm not exaggerating when I say that seeing this picture makes me genuinely concerned for your physical well being. A wise man once told me that no job can pay you more than your health is worth; If you don't have your health, you don't have much.

Sammy,

I've been so concerned that I've doubled on on my life insurance and have moved my personal funds straight into my wife's money market account.

I have no shame in admitting I'm scared and that everyone from my dentist to my hair stylist is worried.

Three doctors appointments, several tests, and two misdiagnosis later, the only advice I have is to "not stress out and eat more".

I'm doing all I can to not stress out, but my stomach is basically non-existent so when I do try to eat more, I throw it up. It's like I have forced anorexia.

Example: Had a banana and oatmeal for breakfast. All was well.

Tried eating a hamburger for lunch, wasn't going to happen. Stomach was telling me "Dude, too much is already in here".

Wish I had some sort of answer as this is crushing my health, and worse than that, it's making my wife a mental mess.

But! I'm working on it.

Another BUT! I know I can't live like this, as you mentioned. When I have 90 days in my pocket and can collect, I'm Audi 5000.

[prfsnl_gmr]

That's stress. Change jobs ASAP.

EDIT: I can go on the "stress diet" every now and again, and while it is great for my waistline, I know it isn't good for me.

[dsheinem]

That's stress. Change jobs ASAP.

EDIT: I can go on the "stress diet" every now and again, and while it is great for my waistline, I know it isn't good for me.

Did the weight loss starting correspond to your leaving the company you'd worked for much of the past few years, or was it happening when you were there? I know that the new job(s?) have been causing you to need to vent a lot...

[Jmustang1968]

I wouldnt be surprised if it doesnt have any thing to do with your month long fasting. Your body can start doing strange things when it thinks it is being starved.

[s1mplehumar]

Follow my lead. I made a huge pot of New England Clam Chowder with bacon roux last night.

[Key-Glyph]

I'm doing all I can to not stress out, but my stomach is basically non-existent so when I do try to eat more, I throw it up. It's like I have forced anorexia.

I'm not sure whether we should be glad the tests haven't turned up anything (since they've ruled out some serious stuff, like cancer), or worried by the mysteriousness of it.

Your quote above resonated with me though, because I went through something similar and it was absolutely the most difficult time period in my life. I knew exactly what was causing it, though, so I had an advantage. Long story short, in trying to find a solution to a chronic condition my doctor prescribed a particular medication that raised the amount of cortisol (a stress hormone apparently not to be underestimated) in my blood, with one of the side effects being "loss of appetite." I was like, sure, whatever, that's baby stuff. Bring it on. How uncomfortable could that be?

Well. I felt the same as you: full all the time, and on the edge of ill from it. I would eat a forkful of scrambled egg and my stomach felt like a block of wood. It wasn't just an absence of hunger; my body was very clearly issuing the ultimatum "We're full here, you dope, and I will puke to prove it" while my brain knew I hadn't eaten more than three meals in three days.

The only practical advice I have, if you aren't doing this already, is to tag along with people eating in groups. While I was going through this I asked Nemoide (we went to college together) to make me accompany him to the cafeteria whenever he went. The idea was that if I had a reason to traipse to the mess hall (chat with a friend) and go through the motions of a meal (get a plate, put stuff on it, sit and watch somebody eat), that maybe I'd fall into the routine and get at least something into me out of habit.

Oh, and I also made a point of drinking fairly high-calorie chai teas. Somehow drinks were easier to get through than solid food.

[Luke]

Dish: The loss started after I left the job and started this one. Then it got serious, quickly.

Stanger: I weighed the same after the fast (187). I know that the fast can change appetite, but this is clearly from stress. As one of the many doctors I have seen have said "Gradual weight loss would be expected, but nearly forty or fifty pounds in two weeks is cause for concern".

Keaster: Had no idea a high caloric teas existed. Thanks so much for sharing.


It's the craziest thing I've ever dealt with, and in high school I was pulled over while on acid without a license. This makes that seem like a lovely stroll to Grandma's house.

I'm increasing my intake bit by bit. Instead of having half a sandwich for lunch, I'm eating 3/4's. Instead of only eating two bites of my pasta, I'm trying to eat four. But puking up food is not only gross, makes a mess, but is also not good for my body as a whole. That and it scares the who-haa out of my wife.

Stuff has to change.

And my boss knows what I am going through but literally yells at me for eating a banana in my office. It's insane. I'm "Rude and inconsiderate" for eating a banana in a roach filled office with no lights.

Again, stuff has to change.

[TSTR]

Whoa dood, that sounds awful. I didn't know it had really gotten that bad; my apologies if it seemed like I was making light of the situation. Get out of that job ASAP. Your boss is trying to kill you—whether she knows it or not.

<3 u dood, be strong

[darsparx]

Yeah I'm still really thinking your crazy work no matter how decent the pay may seem it's not worth it, hope you do find a job soon that's better than that because the stress it's causing you right now has to be causing all the loss and now inability to eat like you should be able to....

[Luke]

my apologies if it seemed like I was making light of the situation.

No apologies needed.

I work with two duders who also got their mba from ecu and their writing me letters of recommendation that even state I was treated like an upside down bar stool.

Since I was 13 I have never, ever been fired from a job, but right now I almost welcome it. And fuck if I can't explain to a new employer why I was fired.


Time to eat.