All the single gamers, all the single gamers.

[Inazuma]

Marriage and serious relationships are not the same thing.

[noiseredux]

Marriage and serious relationships are not the same thing.

what is this even supposed to mean, Inazuma?

[Erik_Twice]

Prepare your popcorn everyone!

[sevin0seven]

Prepare your popcorn everyone!

[J T]

SPOILERS:
You don't need to be married to have a serious relationship.
You don't need to have a serious relationship to be married.

Sorry if you got the popcorn out for nothing.

[sevin0seven]

SPOILERS:
You don't need to be married to have a serious relationship.
You don't need to have a serious relationship to be married.

Sorry if you got the popcorn out for nothing.

so basically it's the same as part one?

[Inazuma]

Marriage and serious relationships are not the same thing.

what is this even supposed to mean, Inazuma?

I hear people say stuff like

"Marriage is great. My wife cooks dinner for me and sucks me dry every night. You guys should get married too."

Hearing these comments makes me think that these people believe that marriage and relationships are one and the same. The above comment is not actually talking about marriage. It is about relationships. Relationships can be good or bad depending on the people and the situation. Marriage is nothing but a piece of paper. A legal contract that merges the property and assets of two people into one. Marriage has nothing to do with relationships.

What happens is two people meet and fall in love. They are having a wonderful relationship and everything is just dandy. But then what happens is the man feels like he has to get married, because that's what everyone told him to do (especially his woman). He never stops and asks himself for an actual reason to do it. He just does it, and thinks it must be the right thing to do because that's what everyone else does. He thinks marriage is some magical thing that will make his life so much better.

Getting married does nothing to improve that relationship. All it does is bring extra costs. There are costs for getting wedding rings and the actual wedding ceremony itself. And if things don't work out later, instead of having a fair breakup where each person keeps their own stuff, they have to spend more money, argue in divorce court and eventually someone (almost always the man) gets fucked over and has to give the other person tons of money and alimony.

If these foolish men actually understood the difference between relationships and marriage, maybe they would just keep having a great relationship, instead of taking on unneeded costs and risks with absolutely no benefit. Why must foolish men insist on ruining a good thing? It is absolutely ridiculous.

And yeah, marriage is win/win for women so it makes sense for them to get married. I'm not calling the women fools, just the men.


tl;dr
Don't buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.


*edit* made a few small changes

[sevin0seven]

.... so who is this "man" you speak of?

[RyaNtheSlayA]

I actually agree with Inazuma on this issue...

My dad has been in a serious relationship with his girlfriend for the last 4 years, and she's lived with us the entire time. They love eachother, but, they don't want to get married and don't plan too ever. Especially my dad, as we were burned when he got a divorce (we ended up sleeping on cots for a year.)

[MrPopo]

Marriage and serious relationships are not the same thing.

what is this even supposed to mean, Inazuma?

I hear people say stuff like

"Marriage is great. My wife cooks dinner for me and sucks me dry every night. You guys should get married too."

Hearing these comments makes me think that these people believe that marriage and relationships are one and the same. The above comment is not actually talking about marriage. It is about relationships. Relationships can be good or bad depending on the people and the situation. Marriage is nothing but a piece of paper. A legal contract that merges the property and assets of two people into one. Marriage has nothing to do with relationships.

Very true. Like JT said above, marriage and a relationship are two different things. I could marry a girl tomorrow and then never see her or communicate with her again. I'd be married but I wouldn't have a relationship.

Getting married does nothing to improve that relationship. All it does is bring extra costs. There are costs for getting wedding rings and the actual wedding ceremony itself. And if things don't work out later, instead of having a fair breakup where each person keeps their own stuff, they have to spend more money, argue in divorce court and eventually someone (almost always the man) gets fucked over and has to give the other person tons of money and alimony.

There are a lot of very tangible legal benefits to getting married. It's up to individual couples to determine whether or not those are worth the costs involved. I disagree with a lot of our assertions about the one-sided nature of it, though. While still not 50/50, divorce settlements have gotten more and more equitable as time goes on. Your point could be revised to be that if there is a large income disparity between the two people in the couple than the one who earns more is foolish, but I'd argue that if you're planning for divorce you shouldn't be getting married in the first place (or get a pre-nup).

You are right, though, that marriage doesn't suddenly make a relationship better.