Girlfriend left me for my best friend after four years

[s1mplehumar]

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Well now you went and turned it into a debate!

I'm not going to indulge you, but as someone who grew up as the son of a minister and spent more time in church in the first 20 years of his life than most people do in a lifetime I know Christianity inside and out. I'm a Christian by any theological definition, but have chosen to reject that lifestyle and way of thinking for some VERY good reasons. Suffice to say, I didn't arrive at my current position lightly, and if there was a place for religious debate here I'd be happy to explain why I think you're wrong and I'm right

(By the way whatever happened to the forum redesign mumblings? I was looking forward to a possible debate forum!)

Plus, shouldn't we be offering Fox our sympathies anyway?

Yes, of course - but if we're looking out for him as we should certainly recommend some potential coping strategies or, as the case might be, try to steer him away from those that we believe might make his situation even more painful...[/quote]



We've never "arrived." For knowing Christianity "inside and out" you've certainly forgotten one key facet of the Christian life....humility. Also, I never said anything about attending church. You can spend your life rotting away in church pew without learning a thing.

I wish nothing but the best for you, fox. It wasn't my intention to assume the role of preacher. I'm a human being just like all of you, and don't pretend to be something else. I drink black coffee, fart and enjoy Call of Duty just as much as the next gamer.

[equalsign]

...you've certainly forgotten one key facet of the Christian life....humility.

The humble thing to do here would have been to not strike back.

Having this thread locked isn't going to help anybody, so if you guys really want to duke it out you two should take it to the PMs.

[Octopod]

Maybe prayer would help him, or maybe he needs the pornography?

He could always go with the nun pornography to get the best of both worlds.

Hot shit.

[Octopod]

I thought I'd try to add something usefull here. I was with an exgirlfriend for just over six years when she left me. She did not leave me for a friend but she did leave me for someone with a better job and more money that she met over the internet. I thought we were going to be together forever you know. Shit is hard and it takes time. It can take lots of time but things do get better and eventualy you dont give a shit at all about it. Now I am married and I have a 7 month old daughter that I love more than anything in the world. No regrets man. Shit will work out.

[Breetai]

You and the majority of this forum would likely disagree and that's fine, but.....

Matthew 11:28
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

I'd agree... but I'd probably be one of the few here that would.

I've had girls ditch me after relationships before (not 4 years for my best friend though!!!). Sorry man, that's really sucks. You'll definitely need some time to grieve and mope about. Alcohol does help, but just don't over do it! Get yourself surrounded by friends and family for support (except for your (I'm assuming) ex-best friend (what a prick...)). Maybe find a good RPG or good book to get your mind off things. Read the Lord of the Rings Trilogy. Get into Oblivion, Fallout 3, Knights of the Old Republic, Final Fantasy VI or, as s1mplehumar and myself would, the good Lord's Book.

Best of luck.

[blackmagepwns]

Everyone is so different, we could tell you anything, but you will be ok. Myself personally, I just play video games all day, then I have work. It makes me happy.

[jfe2]

Now that I think about it, I suggest playing Dragon Age: Origins.

Better yet... install the character creator, upload a character, get the DLC for that, then complete the achievements in the online flash game, Dragon Age Journeys, and get the DLC for THAT... THEN, play Dragon Age: Origins.

It will consume your soul, and the DLC hunt beforehand will take up a bit of time as well!

This game will make you forget that you have a real life. Just remember to eat.

[J T]

If you're losing interest in things, you're getting depressed. And who wouldn't be depressed after having their friend run off with their girlfriend?

The important thing for staying out of depression is that you stay active. Depression pretty much makes you want to curl up and stay in bed all day and get more and more depressed, but if you force yourself to do the opposite and get active you will counteract the pull of the depression and get through it.


Good luck man. The situation sucks. Don't let it destroy you or your self worth though.

[J T]

And as for earlier advice, well... if you have faith in a God, then praying isn't going to hurt.

Or if you like porn, it's probably not going to hurt either.

If you have faith in a vengeful God and you like porn though, you might have some problems.

[General Chaos]

"Thou shalt protect thy father and honor no one above him unless it be-ith me, thy sweet Lord."

Gob 1:18

Seriously though, the end of a relationship isn't the end of your attachment to it, and certainly not your memory of it. There are some that you'll look back on in ten years and laugh about by yourself or with your new partner, and there are some you'll look back on with fondness, regret, or more likely some combination of the two. Ultimately, just because it ended badly doesn't mean you have to stop caring for her or your friend. You might not continue a relationship with them but they've still contributed to the sum of your life experience. That's something worth appreciating.