Key-Glyph wrote:Also, I do not understand the fixation with marriage (and home-ownership) as the benchmark of success. Marriage and offspring do not a mature person make.
Its not about maturing, its about keeping the economy rolling.
Like I said, the world has changed a lot in the past few decades. More women are competing for the same jobs as men, it takes a longer time to get an education and there arent much good jobs left where you dont need an education, there are a lot less long term jobs around, many people have to re-educate themselves etc. It just isnt financially rational to get married, buy a house and get kids while you are sitll paying your student debt and looking for a job. That doesnt mean that these people wont get married etc later on in their lives when its more rational in an economic point of view. As a result of increasing education requirements and changes in economy, it is more rare these days to be financially ready for home-ownership and kids at the age of 25 than it was 20, 40 or 60 years ago.
Also there is the fact that especially in the United States there isnt much of a reason for a man to get married. Why bother with it? If a woman really loves you and isnt after your money, what difference does it make whether you are married or not?
And there is also the fact that living alone, not getting married etc lifestyle choices are more socially acceptable these days.
I also hate the downright irresponsible notion that having kids is the last benchmark in adulthood. Thats really what this overpopulated world really needs, more people getting kids just because they feel obligated to do so. You dont need to care about your kids, be able to take care of your kids or have the resources needed to raise a child, you just need to make some god damn babies if you wanna be a REAL MAN! The government will take care of the rest. Its your kids problem if they are born into a world where they have to fight for resources if they want to stay alive, not yours. Survival of the fittest is what mankind needs! Thats why people in many third world countries are so happy.
There are people who are unfit to be parents, there are people who dont have the money and time needed to be a parent, there are people who dont want to be parents and so on. The children are our future, so its our responsibility to make sure that our future doesnt end up being like the one in the movie ”Idiocracy”.
Japan seems to be the only developed, rich country that is voluntarily doing something about the problem with out one child policy or forced sterilization, and now people are starting to think that they are the one with the problem.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=116w5U3QnbAThat video reminds me of OPs article in a few ways. Overall they both come across as conservative and judgemental- we dont live like in the 1950s anymore and that needs to change.
Key-Glyph wrote:The author's blanket statements are so firmly entrenched in the idea that traditional gender roles are the only way for society to function that I'm surprised she's interpreted as "feminist."
If educated, working women are having trouble finding educated, working men of their age to start a family with, why cant they have stay home dads instead of stay home moms? If we are truly gender neutral these days, that shouldnt be a problem (besides breastfeeding of course).